“ ...there is so much beauty in the trying, and in the failing, and in the trying again. ”
All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm.
~ Ada Calhoun
So what's the secret to staying together? I asked her. Be nice? she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a secret to losing weight is to eat less. Be nice. Don't leave. That's all.
I want to say that at various points in your marriage, may it last forever, you will look at this person and feel only rage.
The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful for grown-ups.
