Deborah Tannen said this quote

We all want, above all, to be heard. We want to be understood—heard for what we think we are saying, for what we know we meant.

~ Deborah Tannen

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.

~ Deborah Tannen

The Pavlovian view of women voters - 'plug the words in, and they will respond' - sends a chill down my spine because it sounds like an adaptation of something I have written about communication between the sexes: When a woman tells a man about a problem, she doesn't want him to fix it; she just wants him to listen and let her know he understands.

~ Deborah Tannen

I was one of those daughters who saw my mother as my enemy when I was a teen.

~ Deborah Tannen