“ You can admire the way someone meets hard circumstances, but you can't admire him because of them. ”
So they had all had more troubles than she. Did that really make them superior? If two men were walking along the street and a brick fell on one, missing the other, did that make the injured one a better person?
~ Elizabeth Harrower
Perhaps this was part of growing older, to undergo hideous alterations in the deepest certainties, in love, in lovers, finally in one's self.