“ Freedom comes from taking responsibility, bondage comes from giving it away. ”
You aren't alive if you aren't in need.
~ Henry Cloud
This is one of the marks of a truly safe person: they are confrontable.
Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people no darn good any way. People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they often become resigned to never loving again.
Learning to accept powerlessness has profound spiritual implications for your child. When we accept the reality of our human condition -- that we are ultimately powerless to change our fallen state, yet totally responsible for being in it -- we are driven to receive God's solution based on his Son's payment of a debt we can't pay.
