Jill Williamson said this quote

So you cast yourself aside in advance? To save yourself some hurt, you hurt yourself? What kind of way is that to live?'She shrugged one shoulder. 'A safe way?'He released a gusty laugh. 'Is that what you call safe? It's not a safe way, Sparrow, it's a pathetic and lonely way. Sparrow, sometimes life is scary. Get over it, and live.