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“ What the devil is 'wordsharing'? Does the word for 'speak' mean 'listen' just as well? If I said, 'Listen to me!' you might talk, instead.What use is the one without the other? It took me a long time to see this distinction in Valan speech.Spinel thought over the list of 'share forms': learnsharing, worksharing, lovesharing. Do you say 'hitsharing,' too? If I hit a rock with a chisel, does the rock hit me?I would think so. Don't you feel it in your arm?He frowned and sought a better example; it was so obvious, it was impossible to explain. I've got it: if Beryl bears a child, does the child bear Beryl? That's ridiculous.A mother is born when her child comes.Or if I swim in the sea, does the sea swim in me?Does it not?Helplessly he thought, She can't be that crazy. Please, you do know the difference, don't you?Of course. What does it matter? ”