Lewis Engel said this quote

We must accept the fact that we have distorted and constricted our lives as adults in accordance with our unconscious beliefs.

~ Lewis Engel

Control Master Theory suggests that our psychological problems come about in much the same way: our decision to make ourselves unhappy because one or both of our parents were unhappy is just as altruistic as our friend's decision to run through flames to save his daughter.

~ Lewis Engel