for to have a deep attachment for a person (or a place or thing) is to have taken them as the terminating object of our instinctual responses.Separation anxiety. International Journal of Psycho-Analysts, XLI, 1-25 (1959(
~ John Bowlby
It will happen but it will take time.
The stark nakedness and simplicity of the conflict with which humanity is oppressed - that of getting angry with and wishing to hurt the very person who is most loved.
It was regarded as almost outside the proper interest of an analyst to give systematic attention to a person's real experiences.
