He opened his heart to me. He wasn't afraid to show me his weakness. It was a remarkable thing, in that time, for a man to do that. That's the key thing about a strong marriage. It gives you a safe place to be yourself, entirely, even the weak parts.

~ Shilpi Somaya Gowda

Shilpi Somaya Gowda Love Marriage Safety Strength Vulnerability Weakness

Kavita’s arms are still outstretched, but they hold nothing. After the metal gate clangs shut behind them, Kavita can still hear Usha’s piercing wail echoing inside.

~ Shilpi Somaya Gowda

Shilpi Somaya Gowda Abandonment Longing Loss

Not only was it impossible to truly belong in America, but he didn't fit in here anymore either. He was a dweller of two lands, accepted by none.

~ Shilpi Somaya Gowda

Shilpi Somaya Gowda America Culture Immigration India

Most people, including Ma, preferred to brush unpleasantness away, as if, by sweeping it outside with the dust, it could be forgotten. As if, by acknowledging the existence of something unsavory in their community, they might be tainted by it themselves.

~ Shilpi Somaya Gowda

Shilpi Somaya Gowda Denial Gossip Ignorance Shame

Then she rushes to pick up Asha from school, where she is known only as Asha's mom by the other mothers, who seem to all spend a lot of time together. Somer has no time for the PTA and bake sales. She has no time for herself. Her profession no longer defines her, but neither does being a mother. Both are pieces of her, and yet they don't seem to add up to a whole.

~ Shilpi Somaya Gowda

Shilpi Somaya Gowda Motherhood Working Mother

Americans are so tightly wound, the way they kill themselves to get ahead. It's no way to live, I tell you.

~ Shilpi Somaya Gowda

Shilpi Somaya Gowda Americans Life Lessons Stress