Will Schwalbe Quotes

One of Mom's favorite passages from Gilead was: This is an important thing, which I have told many people, and which my father told me, and which his father told him. When you encounter another person, when you have dealings with anyone at all, it is as if a question is being put to you. So you must think, what is the Lord asking of me in this moment, in this situation?

~ Will Schwalbe

I used to say that the greatest gift you could ever give anyone is a book. But I don't say that anymore because I no longer think it's true. I now say that a book is the second greatest gift. I've come to believe that the greatest gift you can give people is to take the time to talk with them about a book you've shared. A book is a great gift, the gift of your interest and attention is even greater.

~ Will Schwalbe

That's one of the amazing things great books like this do - they don't just get you to see the world differently, they get you to look at people, the people all around you, differently.

~ Will Schwalbe

Good books often answer questions you didn't even know you wanted to ask

~ Will Schwalbe

Reading and naps, two of life's greatest pleasures, go especially well together.

~ Will Schwalbe

It was the women of afghanistan,my mother believed,who-once they’d been granted access to books and education- would be the salvation of the country

~ Will Schwalbe

I think it's because it shows that people--or hobbits, as the case may be--can find strength they didn't know they had.

~ Will Schwalbe

Trust is all about instinct. If you had all the facts, you wouldn't need trust. Trust is what is required in the absence of proof. But I believe you can strengthen your instincts by testing them; every time you prove yourself right or wrong, they grow stronger.

~ Will Schwalbe

The idea is that if you practice the Naikan part of Constructive Living, life becomes a series of small miracles, and you may start to notice everything that goes right in a typical life and not the few things that go wrong.

~ Will Schwalbe

I was learning that when you're with someone who is dying, you may need to celebrate the past, live the present, and mourn the future all at the same time.

~ Will Schwalbe

It is not by regretting what is irreparable that true work is to be done, but by making the best of what we are. It is not by complaining that we have not the right tools, but by using well the tools we have. What we are, and where we are is God's providential arrangement - God's doing, though it may be man's misdoing; and the manly and the wise way is to look your disadvantages in the face, and see what can be made our of them.

~ Will Schwalbe

...two different kinds of Japanese psychotherapies, one based on getting people to stop using feelings as an excuse for their actions and the other based on getting people to practice gratitude.

~ Will Schwalbe

She felt whatever emotions she felt, but feeling was never a useful substitute for doing, and she never let the former get in the way of the latter. If anything, she used her emotions to motivate her and help her concentrate. The emphasis for her was always on doing what needed to be done.

~ Will Schwalbe

In Gilead, the narrator's friend's son describes himself not as an atheist but in state of categorical unbelief. He says, I don't even believe God doesn't exist, if you see what I mean. I pointed this passage out to Mom and said it closely matched my own views--I just didn't think about religion.

~ Will Schwalbe

...mindfulness - it isn't a trick or a gimmick. It's being present in the moment. When I'm with you, I'm with you. Right now. That's all. No more and no less.

~ Will Schwalbe

Of course you could do more - you can always do more, and you should do more - but still, the important things is to do what you can, whenever you can. You just do your best, and that's all you can do. Too many people use the excuse that they don't think they can do enough, so they decide they don't have to to do anything. There's never a good excuse for not doing anything - even if it's just to sign something, or send a small contribution, or invite a newly settled refugee family over for Thanksgiving.

~ Will Schwalbe

You can only do what you can, and what doesn't get done, just doesn't get done.

~ Will Schwalbe

I think women should have choices and should be able to do what they like, and I think it's a great choice to stay at home and raise kids, just as it's a great choice to have a career. But I don't entirely approve of people who get advanced degrees and then decide to stay at home. I think if society gives you the gift of one of those educations and you take a spot in a very competitive institution, then you should do something with that education to help others... But I also don't approve of working parents who look down on stay-at-home mothers and think they smother their children. Working parents are every bit as capable of spoiling children as ones who don't work - maybe even more so when they indulge their kids out of guilt. The best think anyone can teach their children is the obligation we all have toward each other - and no one has a monopoly on teaching that.

~ Will Schwalbe

books are the most powerful tool in the human arsenal, that reading all kinds of books, in whatever format you choose - electronic (even though that wasn't for her) or printed, or audio - is the grandest entertainment, and also is how you take part in human conversation.

~ Will Schwalbe

Oh, dear--did I forget to mention that you can, indeed, have it all, but you need a lot of help!

~ Will Schwalbe

If I'd waited until I was well rested to read, I never would have read anything.

~ Will Schwalbe

The thing about Americans,” she said, “is that you’re very concerned about everything all the time.

~ Will Schwalbe

Good books often answer questions you didn't even know you wanted to ask.

~ Will Schwalbe

The greatest gift you can give anyone is your undivided attention...

~ Will Schwalbe

If our family was an airline, Mom was the hub and we were the spokes. You rarely went anywhere nonstop; you went via Mom, who directed the traffic flow and determined the priorities: which family member was cleared for takeoff or landing. Even my father was not immune to Mom's scheduling, though he was given more leeway than the rest of us.

~ Will Schwalbe

And there's something you can always tell people who want to learn more about the world and who don't know how to find a cause to support. You can always tell them to read.

~ Will Schwalbe

It’s cruelty that gets to me. Still, it’s important to read about cruelty.“Why is it important?” Because when you read about it, it’s easier to recognize. That was always the hardest thing in the refugee camps—to hear the stories of the people who had been raped or mutilated or forced to watch a parent or a sister or a child be raped or killed. It’s very hard to come face-to-face with such cruelty. But people can be cruel in lots of ways, some very subtle. I think that’s why we all need to read about it. I think that’s one of the amazing things about Tennessee Williams’s plays. He was so attuned to cruelty—the way Stanley treats Blanche in A Streetcar Named Desire. It starts with asides and looks and put-downs. There are so many great examples from Shakespeare—when Goneril torments King Lear or the way Iago speaks to Othello. And what I love about Dickens is the way he presents all types of cruelty. You need to learn to recognize these things right from the start. Evil almost always starts with small cruelties.

~ Will Schwalbe