Chaos lifted on wings and flew.
~ Isabella Rogge
Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.
~ David W. Earle
Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I don’t see myself as being a mistake then it is I who must take responsibility and I am not ready to accept that.
Others hide from being real by filling the air with words; the more words they throw out, the less actual communication happens and they are left with only an illusion of connection. This is the intimacy they so ardently seek but with these coping skills find so elusive.
Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing process and maturity demands lifelong learners.
The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.
It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.
As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional; often they were my best expression of love, sometimes coming out sideways, not as I intended.
Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.
If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.
Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.
Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.
Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy
Being real is being true to you.
We ardently desire to take down our masks and say to the world, “This is who I am…and I am okay.” This is simple…not easy.
REAL people do not have to lie, exaggerate, or brag for they are self-contained in self-understanding and acceptance of themselves. REAL people can make a mistake knowing that even when they do, it is only a mistake and just because the outcome was not to their liking, they know…THEY are not a mistake. REAL have the attitude this is who I am…and I am good enough, right now…just as I am. People who have chosen REAL have already clicked their heals together and returned home.
When you journey inwardly exploring yourself, a sense of personal trust begins.
Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.
The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.
Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in the far recesses of his mind.
Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own life and how I was living.
Chaos limits the free-flow of love and becomes a roadblock to what family members want most and sadly, it becomes the normal for the family.
When someone obtains peace and serenity, this shines a bright spotlight on others’ own unhappiness making their discomfort even more apparent.
If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?
Swirling in a squirrel cage of perpetual motion, the head-committee meets, argues, votes out the guidance available from emotions, and successfully keeps serenity at bay and chaos close at hand.
Children naturally believe without question and absorb knowledge at an incredible rate; since there is no other frame of reference; they believe their parental reality, true or false.
Behind those happy eyes, you hide a mind that is terribly chaotic and that's what makes you, so beautiful.
~ Akshay Vasu
Your voice tears me away from the reality that I exist and places my mind somewhere in between the infinity and beyond. Where everything is made of bliss and magic. Sometimes, I am scared of not hearing it again and never being able to get separated from this chaotic reality again.
Don't ever think of bad things that could happen, and you'll have a better chance of them never happening. Don't ever think about doing something bad to someone, because depending on the intensity of your mind waves, something bad could really happen to them. Think love. Be love. Breathe only love, and love you shall be. When you stress out, things will stress out around you. Always control your thoughts and pacify any unnecessary stress. Control your vibrations and you are the master of your own harmony.
~ Suzy Kassem
This was a new skill she'd acquired, the ability to look, to the outside world, utterly serene and even cheerful, while, in her skull, all was chaos.
~ Dave Eggers
Only a mind free of impediment is capable of grasping the chaotic beauty of the world. This is our greatest asset.
~ Oliver Bowden
Where everyone wants to be a leader, it makes one a follower to want to be a leader, and a leader to know what to follow.
~ Criss Jami
I am the rightful ruler of this world And now that I, too, have awakened, like my dragons, I have come to take back what is mine.
~ Nenia Campbell
It's a cruel and random world, but the chaos is all so beautiful.
~ Hiromu Arakawa
We are chasing happiness, and don't care about happiness of people who matter. Probably, we got our priorities right, but failed to set an order. We created a chaos hoping the world would fall in place itself..
~ Crestless Wave
When the world turns chaotic, we must be the better part of chaos.
~ Charlie Jane Anders
Wherever in the world a country is governed by spiritually ill, politically empty, ethically rotten and mentally stupid people, over there you can find nothing but chaos, tears and fire!
~ Mehmet Murat Ildan
During the flames of controversy, opinions, mass disputes, conflict, and world news, sometimes the most precious, refreshing, peaceful words to hear amidst all the chaos are simply and humbly 'I don't know.
I wear the universe backwards. I imagine putting stars in my coffee, and sugar in the sky. I imagine going fishing in clouds, and watching the sun hide behind lakes. I'm too busy dancing with my imagination to even tip toe with reality for a second. They say I'm going mad. They're right.
~ D. Antoinette Foy
A person who finds grace never lacks the courage to endure, remain resolute in principles and action in the face of an easy collapse into anger, insanity, and self-destruction when living in an increasing chaotic world filled with armed conflict, terrorism, and cultural discord.
~ Kilroy J. Oldster
