Often, her mate is the child of a narcissist, already indoctrinated to regard exploitation and disregard as love. Others lured by the narcissistic aura are those in whom healthy childhood exhibitionism has been repressed. . . . If the parent puts the child to shame for showing off, the need for attention gets repressed into the unconscious. Repression means that the need is not satisfied and continues to press for expression in the adult without her being aware of it. The repressed adult may select an exhibitionistic mate to achieve vicarious satisfaction.

~ Elan Golomb

Elan Golomb Dysfunctional Families Exhibitionism Exploitation Narcissism Narcissistic Narcissistic Abusers Narcissistic Mothers Narcissistic Personality Repressed Emotions Repression Revictimization Shame

Healthy people understand that others have the capacity to choose to end relationships and it serves as motivation for them to learn to relate in healthy and loving ways. However, when we are driven by shame, we don't just fear losing a relationship, but we live in terror that if we let anyone really get to know us, we would never be desired, pursued, or loved. In us, that fear can be worked out in the development of unhealthy denial, workaholism, perfectionism, chameleon-type behavior, and sadly, even revictimization... When we live in denial or present a false self out of fear... we will do anything to be accepted by people... When we begin to tell the truth about what happened to us we also begin the process of turning about from this type of idolatry... When we begin to tear away our layers of illegitimate shame... When our own vision is not distorted by our shame we can discern what was our responsibility and what wasn't.

~ Wendy J. Mahill

Wendy J. Mahill Abuse Survivors Being Exposed Chameleon Chameleon Type Behavior Dysfunctional Relationships False Self Fast Of Being Alone Fast Of Rejection Fear Of Being Found Out Fear Of Being Known Fear Of Exposure Fear Of Intimacy Healing Insights Hiding From The Past Revictimization Self Hate Shame Unhealthy Coping Unhealthy Habits Unhealthy Relationships Vulnerable Wearing A Mask Workaholic