“ The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be... ”
The past has no power over the present moment.
~ Eckhart Tolle
Realize deeply that the present moment is all you will ever have.
What will be left of all the fearing and wanting associated with your problematic life situation that every day takes up most of your attention? A dash, one or two inches long, between the date of birth and date of death on your gravestone.
It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.