Elizabeth Stuart Phelps said this quote

Success for a woman means absolute surrender, in whatever direction. Whether she paints a picture, or loves a man, there is no division of labor possible in her economy. To the attainment of any end worth living for, a symmetrical sacrifice of her nature is compulsory upon her.

~ Elizabeth Stuart Phelps

My wife and I said good-bye the next morning in a little sheltered place among the lumber on the wharf; she was one of your women who never like to do their crying before folks.She climbed on the pile of lumber and sat down, a little flushed and quivery, to watch us off. I remember seeing her there with the baby till we were well down the channel. I remember noticing the bay as it grew cleaner, and thinking that I would break off swearing; and I remember cursing Bob Smart like a pirate within an hour.(Kentucky's Ghost)

~ Elizabeth Stuart Phelps

The great law of denial belongs to the powerful forces of life whether the case be one of coolish baked beans or an unrequited affection.

~ Elizabeth Stuart Phelps

Happiness must be cultivated. It is like character. It is not a thing to be safely let alone for a moment or it will run to weeds.

~ Elizabeth Stuart Phelps