Judith Butler said this quote

Thus the successful bid to gain access to marriage effectively strengthens marital status as a state-sanctioned condition for the exercise of certain kinds of rights and entitlements, it strengthens the hand of the state in the regulation of human sexual behavior, and it emboldens the distinction between legitimate and illegitimate forms of partnership and kinship.

~ Judith Butler

If the immutable character of sex is contested, perhaps this construct called ‘sex’ is as culturally constructed as gender; indeed, perhaps it was always already gender, with the consequence that the distinction between sex and gender turns out to be no distinction at all.

~ Judith Butler

We must be undone in order to do ourselves: we must be part of a larger social fabric of existence in order to create who we are.

~ Judith Butler

Democracy does not speak in unison; its tunes are dissonant, and necessarily so. It is not a predictable process; it must be undergone, as a passion must be undergone. It may also be that life itself becomes foreclosed when the right way is decided in advance, or when we impose what is right for everyone, without finding a way to enter into community and discover the right in the midst of cultural translation. It may be that what is right and what is good consist in staying open to the tensions that beset the most fundamental categories we require, to know unknowingness at the core of what we know.

~ Judith Butler