Pema Chödrön said this quote

But as we let go of our repetitive stories and fixed ideas about ourselves--particularly deep-seated feelings of I'm not okay--the armor starts to fall apart, and we open into the spaciousness of our true nature, into who we really are beyond the transitory thoughts and emotions. We see that our armor is made up of nothing more than habits and fears, and we begin to feel that we can let those go.