Alexandra Robbins Quotes

Students didn't much like those who verbally or physically beat the crap out of them. But when researchers began measuring aggression alongside perceived popularity, they found an undeniably strong link. Recent studies conclude that aggressive behaviors are now often associated with high social status. Psychologists no longer view aggression as a last-resort tactic of social misfits. Now they see aggression as a means toward social success. (This does not, however, mean it is admired.)

~ Alexandra Robbins

Although she was gregarious, she inadvertently separated herself from people because she was so often inside her own head, focusing on her creativity.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Gaming was one of the only times when you only have to focus on one thing. But even more than that, It's like an anchor. As long as I know it's there, it's part of me. It's some form of continuity that in my life I desperately need.

~ Alexandra Robbins

If there is a single factor that spells out the difference between the cafeteria fringe headed for greatness and those doomed for low self-worth, even more than a caring teacher or a group of friends, it is supportive, accepting parents who not only love their children unconditionally, but also don't make them feel as if their idiosyncrasies qualify as conditions in the first place.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Imagine what it must be like for teenagers who don't feel they have room to breathe in their own homes. If you are a parent reading this book, you care about your child. If she is quirky, unusual, or nonconformist, ask yourself whether you are doing everything you can to nurture her unusual interests, style, or skills, or whether instead you are directly or subtly pushing her to hide them.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Too many parents fail to understand that there is a difference between fitting in and being liked, that there is a difference between being normal and being happy. High school is temporary. Family is not.

~ Alexandra Robbins

My heart broke not only for the daughter who already was forced to become her mother's alarmingly narrow ideal, but also for the middle daughter who knew that her in mother's mind she had already failed.

~ Alexandra Robbins

I figure I'll win the fight in twenty years or so anyways when I end up with a decent life and their unemployed and living at home.

~ Alexandra Robbins

In the minds of their peers, too often students become caricatures of themselves.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Studies have shown that, at least among students, popularity equals visibility.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Being indie means being artistic and finding your own eccentric identity. The name of the game for being an indie kid is to never admit you are one. If you do, it goes against your beliefs against labeling, thus making you a hypocrite.

~ Alexandra Robbins

The human brain takes in information from other people and incorporates it with the information coming from its own senses, neuroscientist Gregory Berns has written. Many times, the group's opinion trumps the individual's before he even becomes aware of it.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Nonconformists aren't just going against the grain; they're going against the brain. Either their brains aren't taking the easy way out to begin with, or in standing apart from their peers, these students are standing up to their biology.

~ Alexandra Robbins

If teachers are uncomfortable at their own school, they will pass on their uncertainties or negative attitude to students.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Being an outsider doesn't necessarily indicate any sort of social failing. We do not view a tuba player as musically challenged if he cannot play the violin.

~ Alexandra Robbins

The 1970s, fewer than 25% of US residents lived in counties in which the presidential candidate won by landslide. 30 years later, that percentage has nearly doubled.

~ Alexandra Robbins

He didn't realize that simply by mingling among various lunch tables, he was befriending people in different crowds, weaving together the fringes of the cafeteria.

~ Alexandra Robbins

It was a relief to inhabit someone else's life for a while, to get her personal issues for a brief respite. In a play, she knew exactly how all her character's problems would be resolved. No matter how the cast performed, the end turned out the same. No questions, no worries, no unknowns.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Part of the problem is that people at our school don't listen. They just put on the headphones and tune out the world. It's intimidating.

~ Alexandra Robbins

The cafeteria made him feel like an observer rather than a participant in the high school experience.

~ Alexandra Robbins

How could he encapsulate in a pithy admissions-interview line all of his unique ideas and interests?

~ Alexandra Robbins

Many of the differences that cause students to be excluded in school are actually the same qualities or skills that other people are going to admire, respect or value about that person in adulthood.

~ Alexandra Robbins

Adults tell students that it gets better, that the world changes after school, that being 'different' will pay off sometime after graduation. But no one explains to them why.

~ Alexandra Robbins

A Health Affairs study comparing patient-satisfaction scores with HCAHPS surveys of almost 100,000 nurses showed that a better nurse work environment was associated with higher scores on every patient-satisfaction survey question.

~ Alexandra Robbins

When Department of Health and Human Services administrators decided to base 30 percent of hospitals' Medicare reimbursement on patient satisfaction survey scores, they likely figured that transparency and accountability would improve healthcare.

~ Alexandra Robbins