Long distance is hard. You have to trust that as you each change on your own, your relationship will also change along with you. It takes hope, good humor, and idealism. It takes a massive dose of courage to protect the relationship at all odds. It is hard, but worth it. You'll both be stronger as a result.
Question the answers, I repeated every class. Reevaluate your conclusions when the evidence changes.
I wanted that future officer to weigh decisions with a supple mind and to be comfortable with nuance and uncertainty.