Jennifer A. Nielsen said this quote

if you hurt deeply, then it means you love deeply too. love is powerful thing, Jaron. In the end, love will help you win this war.I chuckled, that'd be a fine new strategy, I think. When the enemy wields a sword against me, I'll simply express my love for them. They'll be so shocked, they'll collapse on the spot and the victory will be mine.I daresay you will be the first to claim victory that way