The feeling of righteousness is the core mood alteration among religious addicts. Religious addiction is a massive problem in our society. It may be the most pernicious of all addictions because it’s so hard for a person to break his delusion and denial. How can anything be wrong with loving God and giving your life for good works and service to mankind?

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Religion Self Righteousness

Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one’s authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Abuse Healing Psychology Toxic Toxic Shame Trauma

True love heals and affects spiritual growth. If we do not grow because of someone else’s love, it’s generally because it is a counterfeit form of love.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Love Personal Growth

Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Consciousness Hell

Science has so far been unable to tell us how self-aware dogs are, much less whether they have anything like our conscious thoughts. This is not surprising, since neither scientists nor philosophers can agree about what the consciousness of humans consists of, let alone that of animals.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Consciousness Dogs

Playing roles and acting are forms of lying. If a person acts like they really feel and it rocks the boat, they are ostracized. We promote pretense and lying as a cultural way of life. Living this way causes an inner split. It teaches us to hide and cover up our toxic shame. This sends us deeper into isolation and loneliness.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Culture Denial Of Emotions Isolation Roles Shame Toxic Shame

The disowned part of self is an energy - an emotion or desire or need, that has been shamed every time it emerged. These energy patterns are repressed but not destroyed. They are alive in our unconscious.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Emotions Repression Shadow Self Shame Unconscious

DENIAL OF EMOTIONSOur culture does not handle emotions well. We like folks to be happy and fine. We learn rituals of acting happy and fine at an early age. I can remember many times telling people I'm fine when I felt like the world was caving in on me. I often think of Senator Muskie who cried on the campaign trail when running for president. From that moment on he was history. We don't want a president who has emotions. We would rather have one that can act! Emotions are certainly not acceptable in the workplace. True expression of any emotions that are not positive are met with disdain.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Acceptance Acting Denial Emotional Emotions People Control Emotions Quotes Happiness Hiding Hysterical Shame Society Denial White Lies

The capacity for love that makes dogs such rewarding companions has a flip-side: They find it difficult to cope without us. Since we humans programmed this vulnerability, it's our responsibility to ensure that our dogs do not suffer as a result.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Dogs Love Responsibility

Perhaps nothing so accurately characterizes dysfunctional families as denial. The denial forces members to keep believing the myths and vital lies in spite of the facts, or to keep expecting that the same behaviors will have different outcomes.Dad's not an alcoholic because he never drinks in the morning, in spite of the fact that he's drunk every night.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Addiction Alcoholic Parent Alcoholism Denial Dysfunctional Families Dysfunctional Family

To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Shame

The most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Shame

Perhaps nothing so accurately characterizes dysfunctional families as denial.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Abuse Survivors Child Abuse Child Abuse Deniers Denial Dysfunctional Families Dysfunctional Family

I believe that this neglected wounded inner child of the past is the major source of human misery.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Character Personality

Virtue is an inner strength. It expands your nature.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Nature Virtue

Evil is a source of moral intelligence in the sense that we need to learn from our shadow, from our dark side, in order to be good.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Good Evil Shadow

I define a 'good person' as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their 'shadow' - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Evil Words Good And Evil

It's essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life's pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted thinking must be corrected.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Life Pain Thinking