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One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.

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Alain De Botton Attraction Health Love Pathology Right Wrong

There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.

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Alain De Botton Balance Life Work Work Life Balance

There's a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough.

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Alain De Botton Behavior Life Personality Weirdness

The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.

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Alain De Botton Emotions Film Humanity Philosophy

The price we have paid for expecting to be so much more than our ancestors is a perpetual anxiety that we are far from being all we might be.

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Alain De Botton Philosophy Status Anxiety

The most boring and unproductive question one can ask of any religion is whether or not it is true.

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Alain De Botton God Philosophy Religion Religions

Far from rejecting outright any hierarchy of success or failure, philosophy instead reconfigures the judging process, lending legitimacy to theidea that themainstream value system may unfairly consign some people to disgrace and others to respectability.

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Alain De Botton Philosophy Status Values

We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.

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Alain De Botton Insanity Love Truth

One's doing well if age improves even slightly one's capacity to hold on to that vital truism: This too shall pass.

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Alain De Botton Aging Life Resilience Truth

The media insists on taking what someone didn't mean to say as being far closer to the truth than what they did.

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Alain De Botton Media Misspeaking Truth

I never wavered in my certainty that God did not exist. I was simply liberated by the thought that there might be a way to engage with religion without having to subscribe to its supernatural content - a way, to put it in more abstract terms, to think about Fathers without upsetting my respectful memory of my own father. I recognized that my continuing resistance to theories of an afterlife or of heavenly residents was no justification for giving up on the music, buildings, prayers, rituals, feasts, shrines, pilgrimages, communal meals and illustrated manuscripts of the faiths.

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Alain De Botton Atheism God Religion

However powerful our technology and complex our corporations, the most remarkable feature of the modern working world may in the end be internal, consisting in an aspect of our mentalities: in the widely held belief that our work should make us happy. All societies have had work at their centre; ours is the first to suggest that it could be something more than a punishment or a penance. Ours is the first to imply that we should seek to work even in the absence of a financial imperative.

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Alain De Botton Beliefs Happiness Work

The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word luxury.

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Alain De Botton Happiness Luxury Materialism

The difference between hope and despair is a different way of telling stories from the same facts.

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Alain De Botton Despair Hope Perspective

Don't despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don't - surrender to events with hope.

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Alain De Botton Control Despair Foresight Hope Surrender

It is hope--with regard to our careers, our love lives, our children, our politicians, and our planet--that is primarily to blame for angering and embittering us. The incompatibility between the grandeur of our aspirations and the mean reality of our condition generates the violent disappointments which rack our days and etch themselves in lines of acrimony across our faces.

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Alain De Botton Anger Aspirations Bitterness Disappointments Hope Life Reality

What makes the prospect of death distinctive in the modern age is the background of permanent technological and sociological revolution against which it is set, and which serves to strip us of any possible faith in the permanence of our labours. Our ancestors could believe that their achievements had a chance of bearing up against the flow of events. We know time to be a hurricane. Our buildings, our sense of style, our ideas, all of these will soon enough be anachronisms, and the machines in which we now take inordinate pride will seem no less bathetic than Yorick's skull.

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Alain De Botton Achievements Anachronisms Death Permanence Revolution Sociology Technology Time Work

One kind of good book should leave you asking: how did the author know that about me?

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Alain De Botton Authors Books Self Writing

In a secularising world, art has replaced religion as a touchstone of our reverence and devotion.

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Alain De Botton Art Religion Secularism

For the rest of history, for most of us, our bright promise will always fall short of being actualised; it will never earn us bountiful sums of money or beget exemplary objects or organisations....Most of us stand poised at the edge of brilliance, haunted by the knowledge of our proximity, yet still demonstrably on the wrong side of the line, our dealings with reality undermined by a range of minor yet critical psychological flaws (a little too much optimism, an unprocessed rebelliousness, a fatal impatience or sentimentality). We are like an exquisite high-speed aircraft which for lack of a tiny part is left stranded beside the runway, rendered slower than a tractor or a bicycle.

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Alain De Botton Brilliance Failure Flaws Promise Success

If one felt successful, there'd be so little incentive to be successful.

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Alain De Botton Feelings Self Perception Success

Philosophy, art, politics, religion and bohemia have never sought to do away entirely with the status hierarchy; they have attemptee, rather, to institute new kinds of hierarchies based on sets of values unrecognised by, and critical of, those of the majority.. They have provided us with persuasive and consoling reminders that there is more than one way of succeeding in life.

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Alain De Botton Life Status Success

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.

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Alain De Botton Intimacy Relationships Weirdness

We believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on came entwined with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes.How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right—in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding, and reliable—given that, in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearnt. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration.

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Alain De Botton Attraction Familiarity Love Relationships

...workplace dynamics are no less complicated or unexpectedly intense than family relations, with only the added difficulty that whereas families are at least well-recognised and sanctioned loci for hysteria reminiscent of scenes from Medea, office life typically proceeds behind a mask of shallow cheerfulness, leaving workers grievously unprepared to handle the fury and sadness continually aroused by their colleagues.

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Alain De Botton Dynamics Emotions Families Relationships Work Workplace

You have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you're annoyed with them.

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Alain De Botton Annoyance Relationships

Everyone endeavours to eliminate through the other individual his own weaknesses, defects, and deviations from the type, lest they be perpetuated or even grow into complete abnormalities in the child which will be produced.

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Alain De Botton Love Philosophy Relationships Schopenhauer

we would not reliably assent to reproduce unless we first had lost our minds.

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Alain De Botton Love Philosophy Relationships Schopenhauer

The feeling one has no time to get anything done provides the pressure that guarantees one does get some things done.

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Alain De Botton Accomplishments Pressure Time

Most of what makes a book 'good' is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.

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Alain De Botton Books Reading Right Moment Timing

Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books written because authors couldn't find anyone to talk to.

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Alain De Botton Books Booksellers Loneliness

Work begins when the fear of doing nothing at all finally trumps the terror of doing it badly.

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Alain De Botton Fear Life Work

We pick our friends not only because they are kind and enjoyable company, but also, perhaps more importantly, because they understand us for who we think we are.

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Alain De Botton Friendship

Being political doesn’t only or principally mean caring what party wins the next election, to be political is to care about the happiness of strangers.

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Alain De Botton Caring Elections Empathy Politics

It is perhaps when our lives are at their most problematic that we are likely to be most receptive to beautiful things.

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Alain De Botton Beauty

What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.

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Alain De Botton Art Beauty

You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.

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Alain De Botton Beauty Hardships Life Ordinary Days

There is a danger of developing a blanket distaste for modern life which could have its attractions but lack the all-important images to help us identify them.

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Alain De Botton Beauty Modern Life

It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.

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Alain De Botton Architecture Art Sadness

It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.

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Alain De Botton Art Emotion
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