I believe the best service to the child is the service closest to the child, and children who are victims of neglect, abuse, or abandonment must not also be victims of bureaucracy. They deserve our devoted attention, not our divided attention.

~ Kenny Guinn

Kenny Guinn Abandonment Abuse Bureaucracy Child Abuse Childcare Childhood Foster Care Life Neglect Social Welfare Social Work

The problem that I think I have with God is often not a problem at all. Rather, it is most frequently a tired misperception where I have made God what I need Him to be in order to justify my rejection of Him.

~ Craig D. Lounsbrough

Craig D. Lounsbrough Abandon Abandonment Agenda God Justification Justify Manipulate Manipulation Misperception Perception Reject Rejection

The very places that we presume God not to be are the very places that are filled with His footprints and littered with His fingerprints.

~ Craig D. Lounsbrough

Craig D. Lounsbrough Abandoned Abandonment Absence Absent Alone Banish Banished Difficulties Fingerprints Footprints God Isolated Isolation Lonely Trials

She'd abandoned the animal she loved as she herself had been abandoned repeatedly in the past by people who had claimed to love her.

~ Flora Rheta Schreiber

Flora Rheta Schreiber Abandonment Animals Love

I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce and then to abandon them, until he was at last able to experience how he himself had repeatedly been abandoned by his mother.

~ Alice Miller

Alice Miller Abandonment Mother Seduce Women

And if we do speak out, we risk rejection and ridicule. I had a best friend once, the kind that you go shopping with and watch films with, the kind you go on holiday with and rescue when her car breaks down on the A1. Shortly after my diagnosis, I told her I had DID. I haven't seen her since. The stench and rankness of a socially unacceptable mental health disorder seems to have driven her away.

~ Carolyn Spring

Carolyn Spring Abandonment Denial Dissociation Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Identity Disorder Fake Friends Mental Health Mental Health Stigma Mental Illness Mental Illness Stigma Mentally Ill Prejudice Psychiatric Disorders Rejection Ridicule Shame Social Rejection Socially Unacceptable Society Denial

Perfectionism is the unparalleled defense for emotionally abandoned children. The existential unattainability of perfection saves the child from giving up, unless or until, scant success forces him to retreat into the depression of a dissociative disorder, or launches him hyperactively into an incipient conduct disorder. Perfectionism also provides a sense of meaning and direction for the powerless and unsupported child. In the guise of self-control, striving to be perfect offers a simulacrum of a sense of control. Self-control is also safer to pursue because abandoning parents typically reserve their severest punishment for children who are vocal about their negligence.

~ Pete Walker

Pete Walker Abandonment Abusive Parents Child Abuse Child Neglect Conduct Disorder Defense Mechanism Dissociation Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Identity Disorder Emotional Abuse Emotionally Unavailable Mental Health Mental Illness Perfectionism Powerlessness Psychological Abuse Punishment Self Control Survivors Survivors Of Abuse

What will life be like without her? I am dreadfully sad she is leaving. What if she just disappears, gets tired of all this trouble at home? What if she leaves me too? How heavy is a dresser when you're the only one pushing it against the door? I feel truly on my own.

~ Mira Bartok

Mira Bartok Abandonment Family Fear Mental Illness

I lay in bed and watched moments break into phenomenal particles of panic and could actually see the divine crack of God’s ass as he completely turned his back on me.

~ Arthur Nersesian

Arthur Nersesian Abandonment Doubt Fear God Panic

I see the insipid flesh blossoming and palpitating with abandon.

~ Jean-Paul Sartre

Jean-Paul Sartre Abandonment Existentialism

In a blacked-out house, stripped of all comforts, it's easy to turn your anger outward, to attack this city he's lying at the center of, with its filth and its pollution and its oppression, but really, New York is the only thing that's never abandoned him.

~ Garth Risk Hallberg

Garth Risk Hallberg Abandonment Loyalty New York City

Turning your back on nothing and walking away is not disloyal, it's self respect.

~ Justin K. Mcfarlane Beau

Justin K. Mcfarlane Beau Abandonment Disloyal Loyalty Self Help Self Respect

For far too long we have been seduced into walking a path that did not lead us to ourselves. For far too long we have said yes when we wanted to say no. And for far too long we have said no when we desperately wanted to say yes. . . . When we don't listen to our intuition, we abandon our souls. And we abandon our souls because we are afraid if we don't, others will abandon us.

~ Terry Tempest Williams

Terry Tempest Williams Abandonment Intuition Self Betrayal

You told me mornings were the best time to break your own heart. So here I am, smoking your brand of cigarettes for the scent. I wonder if you still sing Beatles songs as you make coffee. You said your mother used to sing them to you when you couldn’t sleep, nineteen years before we met, twenty before you moved your clothes out of our closet while I was at work. By the way, I hate you for leaving all the photographs on the fridge. Taking them down felt like peeling off new scabs, like slapping a sunburn. I spent so many nights carving your body into pillows, I can promise you nothing feels like sleeping with your arm around me and your breath in my ear. Still, it’s comforting to know we sleep under the same moon, even if she’s so much older when she gets to me. I like to imagine she’s seen you sleeping and wants me to know you’re doing well.

~ Clementine Von Radics

Clementine Von Radics Abandonment Longing Lost Love Love Moon

I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger overwhelming emotional flashbacks. This is because the PTSD-derived inner critic weds shame and self-hate about imperfection to fear of abandonment, and mercilessly drive the psyche with the entwined serpents of perfectionism and endangerment. Recovering individuals must learn to recognize, confront and disidentify from the many inner critic processes that tumble them back in emotional time to the awful feelings of overwhelming fear, self-hate, hopelessness and self-disgust that were part and parcel of their original childhood abandonment.

~ Pete Walker

Pete Walker Abandonment Abuse Survivors Complex Ptsd Flashbacks Healing Insights Imperfection Perfectionism Self Criticism Self Disgust Self Hate Shame Survivors

The fear of abandonment forced me to comply as a child, but I’m not forced to comply anymore. The key people in my life did reject me for telling the truth about my abuse, but I’m not alone. Even if the consequence for telling the truth is rejection from everyone I know, that’s not the same death threat that it was when I was a child. I’m a self-sufficient adult and abandonment no longer means the end of my life.

~ Christina Enevoldsen

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Abandoning civil society will leave the enemy in control, not by victory but by default.

~ Mike Klepper

Mike Klepper Abandonment Civil Society Neglect Victory

You are not abandoned until you feel that you are! - On Being Abandoned.

~ Lamine Pearlheart

Lamine Pearlheart Abandoned Abandonment Abandonment Issues Feeling

People abandoned one another constantly without performing the courtesy of of actually disappearing. They left, but didn't, lurking about, a constant reminder of what could or should have been.

~ Cynthia D'aprix Sweeney

Cynthia D'aprix Sweeney Abandonment Disappearing Disappointment Reminders

Probably everything in my life comes back to a feeling of abandonment, and this city never abandons you.

~ Ann Douglas

Ann Douglas Abandonment New York New York City Nyc

Keep your heart wide open and you’ll be received with open hearts — not by everyone, but to be received by one open heart is more than worth the journey.

~ Marnie Grundman

Marnie Grundman Abandonment Abandonment Issues Childhood Trauma Dysfunctional Family Family Relationships Fatherless Fathers And Daughters Inspirational Love Marnie Grundman Open Heart

Remember when you discovered your father owned a book called How To Disappear and Never Be Found? You're sure it was just research for new and creative ways of thinking, for concepts that might apply to his work, but it raised the distinct possibility that there is something very upsetting that people you love could do instead of dying.

~ Lena Dunham

Lena Dunham Abandonment Family Relationships

And so the spirits just gazed at us with eyes milked dry of care.

~ Noviolet Bulawayo

Noviolet Bulawayo Abandonment African Literature Caring Spirits

When you give everything, you have nothing to lose.

~ Kate Mcgahan

Kate Mcgahan Abandonment Everything Give Lose Love Nothing

we lived depravityand called it truth, silencingour dreaming, andour love, discardingthings holy.

~ John Daniel Thieme

John Daniel Thieme Abandonment Depravity Discarded Regrets Silenced