There's no weakness as great as false strength.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Childhood Trauma False Self Psychology Self Esteem Self Knowledge Therapy Trauma

The tombstone over the grave of the conscience always reads: Human Nature.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Cowardice Dishonesty Evil Honesty Irresponsible Philosophy Psychology Responsibility Self Knowledge

I do not use psychiatric terms in my writing because the entrenched and developing behaviours were perfectly normal reactions to abnormal situations.

~ Jane Hersey

Jane Hersey Abuse Deprivation Emotions Jewish Neglect Poverty Psychology

Imagining that you are deep and complex, but others are simple, is one of the primary signs of malignant selfishness.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Borderline Bpd Narcissism Personality Disorders Philosophy Psychology

Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one’s authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically.

~ John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw Abuse Healing Psychology Toxic Toxic Shame Trauma

Anger is the immune system of the soul.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Childhood Defense Freedom Healing Healthy Psychology Toxic People Trauma Well Being

This book is dedicated to those who have died as a result of mind control and/or ritual abuse, and those who have lived when they would rather have died.

~ Alison Miller

Alison Miller Abuse Abuse Survivor Death Mind Control Psychology Recovery Ritual Abuse Sra Suicidal Suicide Survivor Therapy Victim

We are creatures built on a house of cards of language.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Child Abuse Humanity Neurolinguistics Philosophy Psycholinguistics Psychology Trauma

The abuser’s mood changes are especially perplexing. He can be a different person from day to day, or even from hour to hour. At times he is aggressive and intimidating, his tone harsh, insults spewing from his mouth, ridicule dripping from him like oil from a drum. When he’s in this mode, nothing she says seems to have any impact on him, except to make him even angrier. Her side of the argument counts for nothing in his eyes, and everything is her fault. He twists her words around so that she always ends up on the defensive. As so many partners of my clients have said to me, “I just can’t seem to do anything right.”At other moments, he sounds wounded and lost, hungering for love and for someone to take care of him. When this side of him emerges, he appears open and ready to heal. He seems to let down his guard, his hard exterior softens, and he may take on the quality of a hurt child, difficult and frustrating but lovable. Looking at him in this deflated state, his partner has trouble imagining that the abuser inside of him will ever be back. The beast that takes him over at other times looks completely unrelated to the tender person she now sees. Sooner or later, though, the shadow comes back over him, as if it had a life of its own. Weeks of peace may go by, but eventually she finds herself under assault once again. Then her head spins with the arduous effort of untangling the many threads of his character, until she begins to wonder whether she is the one whose head isn’t quite right.

~ Lundy Bancroft

Lundy Bancroft Abuse Abuse Survivors Abused Women Abuser Abusers Abusive Men Abusive Partners Abusive Relationship Abusive Relationships Domestic Abuse Domestic Violence Emotional Abuse Mental Abuse Physical Abuse Psychological Abuse Psychology

The only part of you that hurts when you're given the truth is the part that lives on lies.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Freedom Liberation Philosophy Psychology Self Knowledge Trauma

Social anxiety results from being around people who are resolutely opposed to who you are.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Abusers Child Abuse Psychology Trauma

Because the problem of ritual abuse and mind control has not gone away - the survivors are still there - many more therapists have learnt about it. Survivors have spoken out and written their stories, and therapists have learnt a great deal from those brave survivors who have discovered what was done to them. There is a large special interest group on Ritual Abuse and Mind Control within the International Society for the Study of Dissociation. Those therapists who have learnt in isolation or in small private online forums are once again sharing their knowledge widely, and books such as this one are beginning to be published again. The work is still very difficult and challenging, but we now know so much more than we did. We know that there is not one massive Satanic cult, but many different interrelated groups, including religious, military/political, and organized crime, using mind control on children and adult survivors. We know that there are effective treatments. We know that many of the paralyzing beliefs our clients lived by are the results of lies and tricks perpetrated by their abusers. And we know that, as therapists, we can combat this evil with wise and compassionate therapy.

~ Alison Miller

Alison Miller Abuse Abusers Criminal Gangs Cult Cults Disinformation Government Abuse Lies Manipulation Mind Control Organized Crime Perpetrators Psychological Abuse Psychology Ritual Abuse Satanic Satanic Cult Satanic Ritual Abuse Society Denial Survivors Therapists Therapy Treatment Tricks

We raise predators by treating children as prey.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Child Abuse Cycle Of Violence Parenting Philosophy Psychology Trauma

The true self is that which is in touch with reality. The false self is the aspects of your personality that are adapted to threats and no longer consciously recognizes either the adaptation or the threat.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Mindfulness Philosophy Psychology Rationality Self Esteem Trauma

At first you might wonder what you did to deserve such treatment. Nothing, probably, so that doesn't matter. What matters is that, eventually, the abuse becomes the status quo. It's no longer about the whats and whys (“what did I do?” “why are they doing this?”) but the whens and hows (“when are they going to do it?” “how are they going to get me?”). Persecution becomes inevitable, inescapable. And once you get into the victim mindset, you're fucked. The bullies don't even need to hurt you now; your poor, warped, pathetic brain is doing half the work for them.

~ Nenia Campbell

Nenia Campbell Abuse Bullies Bullying Psychology Vicious Cycle Victim Mentality

The unconscious is the true accumulation of your history. It can be accepted or rejected but it can't fundamentally be altered.

~ Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux Abuse Psychology Self Knowledge Trauma

The hardcore drug addicts that I treat, are, without exception, people who have had extraordinarily difficult lives. The commonality is childhood abuse. These people all enter life under extremely adverse circumstances. Not only did they not get what they need for healthy development; they actually got negative circumstances of neglect. I don’t have a single female patient in the Downtown Eastside of Vancouver who wasn’t sexually abused, for example, as were many of the men, or abused, neglected and abandoned serially, over and over again. That’s what sets up the brain biology of addiction. In other words, the addiction is related both psychologically, in terms of emotional pain relief, and neurobiological development to early adversity.

~ Gabor Maté

Gabor Maté Abuse Addiction Childhood Trauma Healing Psychology

What daily life is like for “a multiple” Imagine that you have periods of “lost time.” You may find writings or drawings which you must have done, but do not remember producing. Perhaps you find child-sized clothing or toys in your home but have no children. You might also hear voices or babies crying in your head. Imagine that you can never predict when you will be able to have certain knowledge or social skills, and your emotions and your energy level seem to change at the drop of a hat, and for no apparent reason. You cannot understand why you feel what you feel, and, if you are in therapy, you cannot explore those feelings when asked. Your life feels disjointed and often confusing. It is a frightening experience. It feels out of control, and you probably think you are going crazy. That is what it is like to be multiple, and all of it is experienced by the ANPs. A multiple may also experience very concrete problems, even life-threatening ones.

~ Alison Miller

Alison Miller Abuse Amnesia Anp Child Identity Communication Confusion Crazy Ddnos Diagnosis Dissociation Dissociative Amnesia Dissociative Identity Disorder Fear Feelings Hearing Voices Internal Voices Intrusive Thoughts Mental Disorder Mental Illness Mental Problems Mpd Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychiatry Psychology Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Secrets Shame Stigma Teamwork Therapist Therapy Trauma Voices

I recently consulted to a therapist who felt he had accomplished something by getting his dissociative client to remain in her ANP throughout her sessions with him. His view reflects the fundamental mistake that untrained therapists tend to make with DID and DDNOS. Although his client was properly diagnosed, he assumed that the ANP should be encouraged to take charge of the other parts at all times. He also expected her to speak for them—in other words, to do their therapy. This denied the other parts the opportunity to reveal their secrets, heal their pain, or correct their childhood-based beliefs about the world.If you were doing family therapy, would it be a good idea to only meet with the father, especially if he had not talked with his children or his spouse in years? Would the other family members feel as if their experiences and feelings mattered?Would they be able to improve their relationships? You must work with the parts who are inside of the system. Directly.

~ Alison Miller

Alison Miller Abuse Communication Ddnos Diagnosis Dissociative Identity Disorder Errors Family Feelings Healing Mistake Mpd Multiple Personality Disorder Psychiatry Psychology Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Secrets Teamwork Therapist Therapy Trauma

Having DID is, for many people, a very lonely thing. If this book reaches some people whose experiences resonate with mine and gives them a sense that they aren't alone, that there is hope, then I will have achieved one of my goals. A sad fact is that people with DID spend an average of almost seven years in the mental health system before being properly diagnosed and receiving the specific help they need. During that repeatedly misdiagnosed and incorrectly treated, simply because clinicians fail to recognize the symptoms. If this book provides practicing and future clinicians certain insight into DID, then I will have accomplished another goal. Clinicians, and all others whose lives are touched by DID, need to grasp the fundamentally illusive nature of memory, because memory, or the lack of it, is an integral component of this condition. Our minds are stock pots which are continuously fed ingredients from many cooks: parents, siblings, relatives, neighbors, teachers, schoolmates, strangers, acquaintances, radio, television, movies, and books. These are the fixings of learning and memory, which are stirred with a spoon that changes form over time as it is shaped by our experiences. In this incredibly amorphous neurological stew, it is impossible for all memories to be exact.But even as we accept the complex of impressionistic nature of memory, it is equally essential to recognize that people who experience persistent and intrusive memories that disrupt their sense of well-being and ability to function, have some real basis distress, regardless of the degree of clarity or feasibility of their recollections. We must understand that those who experience abuse as children, and particularly those who experience incest, almost invariably suffer from a profound sense of guilt and shame that is not meliorated merely by unearthing memories or focusing on the content of traumatic material. It is not enough to just remember. Nor is achieving a sense of wholeness and peace necessarily accomplished by either placing blame on others or by forgiving those we perceive as having wronged us. It is achieved through understanding, acceptance, and reinvention of the self.

~ Cameron West

Cameron West Abuse Abusive Parents Child Abuse Child Range Child Sexual Abuse Diagnosis Did Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Incest Memory Mental Health Mental Health Stigma Mental Illness Multiple Personality Disorder Pedophiles Psychiatric Psychology Survivor Trauma

I want everyone that has been abused by someone in their childhood to know that you can get past it. Having DID is not the end of the world; it's the beginning of your new life. DID allows the victim of exceptional abuse the ability to “forget” the abuse and continue living. Without it, I may have gone crazy as a teen and spent my life in a as a teen and spent my life in a psychiatric hospital.

~ Dauna Cole

Dauna Cole Abuse Abused Child Abuse Childhood Abuse Crazy Dissociative Dissociative Identity Disorder Healing Insane Memory Psychology Pyschiatric Recovery Survivor Victim

We must understand that those who experience abuse as children, and particularly those who experience incest, almost invariably suffer from a profound sense of guilt and shame that is not meliorated merely by unearthing memories or focusing on the content of traumatic material. It is not enough to just remember. Nor is achieving a sense of wholeness and peace necessarily accomplished by either placing blame on others or by forgiving those we perceive as having wronged us. It is achieved through understanding, acceptance, and reinvention of the self. At this point in time there are people who question the validity of the DID diagnosis. The fact is that DID has its own category in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders because, as with all psychiatric conditions, a portion of society experiences a cluster of recognizable symptoms that are not better accounted for by any other diagnosis.

~ Cameron West

Cameron West Abuse Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Diagnosis Did Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Incest Mental Health Mental Health Stigma Mental Illness Multiple Personality Disorder Psychiatric Psychology Trauma

Janna knew - Rikki knew — and I knew, too — that becoming Dr Cameron West wouldn't make me feel a damn bit better about myself than I did about being Citizen West. Citizen West, Citizen Kane, Sugar Ray Robinson, Robinson Crusoe, Robinson miso, miso soup, black bean soup, black sticky soup, black sticky me. Yeah. Inside I was still a fetid and festering corpse covered in sticky blackness, still mired in putrid shame and scorching self-hatred. I could write an 86-page essay comparing the features of Borderline Personality Disorder with those of Dissociative Identity Disorder, but I barely knew what day it was, or even what month, never knew where the car was parked when Dusty would come out of the grocery store, couldn't look in the mirror for fear of what—or whom—I'd see. ~ Dr Cameron West describes living with DID whilst studying to be a psychologist.

~ Cameron West

Cameron West Abuse Abusive Parents Child Abuse Child Range Child Sexual Abuse Diagnosis Did Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Incest Memory Mental Health Mental Health Stigma Mental Illness Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Pedophiles Psychiatric Psychologist Psychology Self Blame Self Esteem Shame Split Personality Survivor Survivor Of Abuse Trauma

Some alters are what Dr Ross describes in Multiple Personality Disorder as 'fragments'. which are 'relatively limited psychic states that express only one feeling, hold one memory, or carry out a limited task in the person's life. A fragment might be a frightened child who holds the memory of one particular abuse incident.' In complex multiples, Dr Ross continues, the 'personalities are relatively full-bodied, complete states capable of a range of emotions and behaviours.' The alters will have 'executive control some substantial amount of time over the person's life'. He stresses, and I repeat his emphasis, 'Complex MPD with over 15 alter personalities and complicated amnesia barriers are associated with 100 percent frequency of childhood physical, sexual and emotional abuse.' Did I imagine the castle, the dungeon, the ritual orgies and violations? Did Lucy, Billy, Samuel, Eliza, Shirley and Kato make it all up? I went back to the industrial estate and found the castle. It was an old factory that had burned to the ground, but the charred ruins of the basement remained. I closed my eyes and could see the black candles, the dancing shadows, the inverted pentagram, the people chanting through hooded robes. I could see myself among other children being abused in ways that defy imagination. I have no doubt now that the cult of devil worshippers was nothing more than a ring of paedophiles, the satanic paraphernalia a cover for their true lusts: the innocent bodies of young children.

~ Alice Jamieson

Alice Jamieson Abuse Alters Amnesia Child Abuse Child Rape Child Sexual Abuse Colin Ross Complex Mpd Cover Up Cult Devil Worship Dissociative Identity Disorder Emotional Abuse Fragments Memory Mental Health Mpd Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Orgies Paedophile Ring Paedophiles Physical Abuse Psychiatry Psychology Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Sexual Abuse Spit Personality

It is necessary to make this point in answer to the `iatrogenic' theory that the unveiling of repressed memories in MPD sufferers, paranoids and schizophrenics can be created in analysis; a fabrication of the doctor—patient relationship. According to Dr Ross, this theory, a sort of psychiatric ping-pong 'has never been stated in print in a complete and clearly argued way'. My case endorses Dr Ross's assertions. My memories were coming back to me in fragments and flashbacks long before I began therapy. Indications of that abuse, ritual or otherwise, can be found in my medical records and in notebooks and poems dating back before Adele Armstrong and Jo Lewin entered my life. There have been a number of cases in recent years where the police have charged groups of people with subjecting children to so-called satanic or ritual abuse in paedophile rings. Few cases result in a conviction. But that is not proof that the abuse didn't take place, and the police must have been very certain of the evidence to have brought the cases to court in the first place. The abuse happens. I know it happens. Girls in psychiatric units don't always talk to the shrinks, but they need to talk and they talk to each other. As a child I had been taken to see Dr Bradshaw on countless occasions; it was in his surgery that Billy had first discovered Lego. As I was growing up, I also saw Dr Robinson, the marathon runner. Now that I was living back at home, he was again my GP. When Mother bravely told him I was undergoing treatment for MPD/DID as a result of childhood sexual abuse, he buried his head in hands and wept.(Alice refers to her constant infections as a child, which were never recognised as caused by sexual abuse)

~ Alice Jamieson

Alice Jamieson Abuse Amnesia Colin Ross Dissociation Dissociative Dissociative Identity Disorder Dr Ross False Memories Medical Memory Mental Health Mental Illness Mpd Multiple Personality Disorder Psychological Problems Psychology Recovered Memory Repressed Memories Split Personality Survivor Therapists Therapy Trauma Victim

The physical shape of Mollies paralyses and contortions fit the pattern of late-nineteenth-century hysteria as well — in particular the phases of grand hysteria described by Jean-Martin Charcot, a French physician who became world-famous in the 1870s and 1880s for his studies of hysterics...The hooplike spasm Mollie experienced sounds uncannily like what Charcot considered the ultimate grand movement, the arc de de cercle (also called arc-en-ciel), in which the patient arched her back, balancing on her heels and the top of her head...One of his star patients, known to her audiences only as Louise, was a specialist in the arc de cercle — and had a background and hysterical manifestations quite similar to Mollie's. A small-town girl who made her way to Paris in her teens, Louise had had a disrupted childhood, replete with abandonment and sexual abuse.She entered Salpetriere in 1875, where while under Charcot's care she experienced partial paralysis and complete loss of sensation over the right side of her body, as well as a decrease in hearing, smell, taste, and vision. She had frequent violent, dramatic hysterical fits, alternating with hallucinations and trancelike phases during which she would see her mother and other people she knew standing before her (this symptom would manifest itself in Mollie). Although critics, at the time and since, have decried the sometime circus atmosphere of Charcot's lectures, and claimed that he, inadvertently or not, trained his patients how to be hysterical, he remains a key figure in understanding nineteenth-century hysteria.

~ Michelle Stacey

Michelle Stacey Abuse Amnesia Charcot Conversion Disorder Convulsions Dissociative Identity Disorder Eating Disorder Fancher French History Hysteria Involuntary Movements Jean Marie Charcot Medicine Mental Health Mental Illness Mollie Fancher Mpd Multiple Personality Disorder Paralysis Pierre Janet Psychological Psychology Psychosomatic Illness Science Spasms Trance Victorian Victorian Medicine

Those of us who work in the field of trauma and abuse, whether psychologists, psychoanalysts, social workers, doctors, counselors, or psychotherapists, have been provided with beautiful tools for understanding the impact of trauma. We become adept at understanding the dynamic of why the messenger is always shot and broadcast the Bionic insight of why the visionary is not bearable to the group.However, when it comes to military mind control, abuse within religious belief groups or cults, and deliberately created dissociative identity disorder, we enter the least resourced field of all.

~ Valerie Sinason

Valerie Sinason Abuse Cults Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Messenger Military Mind Control Mkultra Muliple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychological Abuse Psychology Psychotherapist Religious Abuse Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Social Worker Therapy Trauma

SELFHOOD AND DISSOCIATIONThe patient with DID or dissociative disorder not otherwise specified (DDNOS) has used their capacity to psychologically remove themselves from repetitive and inescapable traumas in order to survive that which could easily lead to suicide or psychosis, and in order to eke some growth in what is an unsafe, frequently contradictory and emotionally barren environment.For a child dependent on a caregiver who also abuses her, the only way to maintain the attachment is to block information about the abuse from the mental mechanisms that control attachment and attachment behaviour.10 Thus, childhood abuse is more likely to be forgotten or otherwise made inaccessible if the abuse is perpetuated by a parent or other trusted caregiver.In the dissociative individual, ‘there is no uniting self which can remember to forget’. Rather than use repression to avoid traumatizing memories, he/she resorts to alterations in the self ‘as a central and coherent organization of experience. . . DID involves not just an alteration in content but, crucially, a change in the very structure of consciousness and the self’ (p. 187).29 There may be multiple representations of the self and of others.Middleton, Warwick. Owning the past, claiming the present: perspectives on the treatment of dissociative patients. Australasian Psychiatry 13.1 (2005): 40-49.

~ Warwick Middleton

Warwick Middleton Abuse Attachment Child Abuse Control Ddnos Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Identity Mpd Personality Psychiatry Psychological Psychology Suicide Traumas

After all I've done for you' has alienated more children from their parents than any act of parent cruelty.

~ Dorothy Rowe

Dorothy Rowe Abuse Child Children Depression Psychology Self Help

You pushed me down to the depths of my sorrow until I thought I wouldn’t see the light of day again. You expected me to drown, didn’t you? To be left there for an eternity, waiting for your hand to pull me out? What you didn’t stop to realize is that I live in the shadows, thrive even. When I pull myself from the darkness, I’ll be stronger for it and you’ll regret leaving me for dead.

~ Kayla Krantz

Kayla Krantz Abuse Breaking Free Depression Drown Escape Sorrow Strength

He was a pitiful thing. He had always been a pitiful thing. Why had she never seen that before? There was a hollow place inside her where her fear had been.

~ George R.r. Martin

George R.r. Martin Abuse Abuse Survivors Escaping Abuse Game Of Thrones Overcoming Fear Self Reliance Self Worth Strength

I do not subscribe to the abuse victim or survivor mentality. I have experienced every kind of abuse imaginable and I am and always have been the most happy go-lucky, positive and life affirming person around. Your labels do not serve you, so don't use them as an excuse to be miserable. You have a beautiful life to live, so accept the beauty and start living.

~ Miya Yamanouchi

Miya Yamanouchi Abuse Inspirational Labels Motivational Past Resilience Strength Victim

A man's strength was supposed to be against the outside world: to fight it back from himself and those he took under his protection: his wife, his children, and for a man strong enough, more people still, people like his employees. To turn it inward, against the very people you had been given that strength to protect, because you couldn't deal with the outward fight, was the ultimate weakness.

~ Laura Florand

Laura Florand Abuse Strength

Never let kindness be your weakness, never let your weaknesses be your downfal

~ V. Pain

V. Pain Abuse Healing Hear Me Roar Inspiration Strength Vpain

If there's any guy crazy enough to attack me, I'm going to show him the end of the world -- close up. I'm going to let him see the kingdom come with his own eyes. I'm going to send him straight to the southern hemisphere and let the ashes of death rain all over him and the kangaroos and the wallabies.

~ Haruki Murakami

Haruki Murakami Abuse Ashes Attack Badass Confidence Death End Of The World Girl Power Kangaroos Kingdom Come Self Defense Strength Threat Wallabies

Self-abuse is an infringement on one’s own destiny caused by either ignorance about oneself or negligence of one’s purpose!

~ Israelmore Ayivor

Israelmore Ayivor Abuse Destiny Food For Thought Gifts God Ignorance Infringement Israelmore Ayivor Myles Munroe Negligence Potentials Purpose Purposeful Self Abuse Talents

I won't compete with anybody. I love to compete with my own body. When God closes a door against me, I should not attempt to bang on it. And if God gives me a key to open a door, I should not misuse that key!

~ Israelmore Ayivor

Israelmore Ayivor Abuse Aim High Big Dream Close Compete Competition Destiny Dream Excellence Food For Thought Gifts God I Can Do It Israelmore Ayivor Key Door Misuse My Life Myself Open Passion Potential Success Take Action Talents Trial You Can You Can Do It

Stop falling for those who won't raise you up in the future.

~ Michael Bassey Johnson

Michael Bassey Johnson Abuse Abusive Relationship Attachment Bad Relationship Composure Fake Love Fall Falling In Love Forever Future In In The Future Liars Lifetime Love Loving A Liar Michael Bassey Johnson Mistake Remember Stop Tomorrow Value Wake Up

You may be operating from the belief that you must do everything yourself because no one will ever be there for you. Or you may think that if you never speak up you’ll avoid being rejected. Both these fears no longer apply to you today as an adult. If you never reach out for help, you will continue to deprive yourself.

~ Beverly Engel

Beverly Engel Abuse Belief Independence Rejected Rejection Of Reason Reliance Self Reliance Survival Survivor

My definition of an intellectual is someone who can listen to the William Tell Overture without thinking of the Lone Ranger - Billy Connolly

~ Sherry Marie Gallagher

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