Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Shannon L. Alder Accomplishments Anger Betrayed Bitterness Blindsighted Blown Off Broken Hearted Compassion Confidence Creativity Dignity Dumped Ego Erasing The Past False Confidence False Worth Forgiveness Forgiving Others Freedom Games Giving Growth Hatred Hidden Agendas Hurt Ignored Inner Joy Inner Peace Live Free Low Self Esteem Move On New Beginnings Obvious Peace Pride Proud Proving Worth Real Value Rebel Repentance Restituition Revenge Seeking Approval Self Hatred Self Love Spiritual Growth Start Over Steps Of Repentance Stubborn The Past Truth Truth Follower Value

People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this network of life and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Shannon L. Alder Adversity Anger Management Attitude Bad Attitude Blaming Others Blindsighted Brokenness Changing Perspective Character Choices Computers Denial Doormat Ego Emotions False Confidence False Ego Foolish Forgiveness Hard Hearted Hatred History Internalizing Judgemental Lack Of Compassion Life Life Challenges Negative Pride Problems Reboot Relationships 101 Sad Self Help Self Reflection Self Righteousness Spiritual Death Spiritual Health Stayingpositiveu Com Stubborn Superiority Tests Trials Unforgiving Unhappy Values

Chasing a man is not winning. The only thing you win is the loss of your dignity. Confidence is knowing your value, instead of expecting a man’s love to provide you with value.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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The source to low self-esteem is the lack of control you feel you have in your life. If you spend your life competing with others, trying to make right the wrongs done to you, or waste your time trying to look right, you will never achieve contentment and emotional balance. People you encounter in life can’t be controlled by you. You only have control of yourself. Build your life around a relationship with a higher power and achieving what you’re passionate about. When you let go of what you can’t control, true peace can then enter your life. This is the path to achieving emotional balance.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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