It is not lies or a lack of loyalty that ends a relationship. It is the agonizing truth that one person feels in their heart on a daily basis. It is realizing that you are coping and not living. It is the false belief that there is a verse, quote, phrase or talk that will magically make you feel content, complete or not care. However, it doesn’t last longer than a few days, before your mind and heart goes back to what it wants. It is the moment you realize that you left without ever leaving. It is the moment you realize that fear, shame or guilt is the only thing standing in the way of the life God meant for you to live.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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Often people that settle in life are those that only do what they can with what they have and where they are. Never settle for someone that didn't know your worth from the beginning, or build a life without God in it. Live beyond your low expectations.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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The moment you have to recruit people to put another person down, in order to convince someone of your value is the day you dishonor your children, your parents and your God. If someone doesn't see your worth the problem is them, not people outside your relationship.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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You must do what you need to do to survive, but you will never survive your own heart if you don't also make it a need.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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Let's live a lie for today.You’ll spin talesand pretend to love me.And I'll smile, you’ll not realize it’s fakeThen I’ll pretendyour pretensions don’t cause me pain.

~ Sreesha Divakaran

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Temptation goes both ways. Sometimes, you can be tempted to live a half life because it pleases someone else. Don't ever live in such a way that your heart splits into two souls. You might find yourself sinning for the rest of your life because you don't want to really be in that situation, but you don't want to hurt the kids. That is a hell that your children will pick up on soon enough. Staying for the kids is possible, but it takes two people to agree that choice is their lifestyle, not one. Otherwise, you hold another person captive because of your fear of stating the obvious-- you are not in love with them.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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Staying for your children is noble. However, staying with someone that teaches your children that selective evilness is okay is mental illness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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Sensitive people either love deeply or they regret deeply. There really is no middle ground because they live in passionate extremes.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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People that don't know what they are worth will always see their capture's wings, but never their tail.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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If your children know who God is they will know who they are, regardless of where you or they call home.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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If they keep coming back to you, it isn't love. It is because you made yourself and easy option. The moment the thing they truly want becomes less difficult to obtain is when you will realize that your worth was on sale.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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Blame doesn't empower you. It keeps you stuck in a place you don't want to be because you don't want to make the temporary, but painful decision, to be responsible for the outcome of your own life's happiness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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We are all lies waiting for the day when we will break free from our cocoon and become the beautiful truth we waited for.

~ Shannon L. Alder

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Without realizing it, I fought to keep my two worlds separated. Without ever knowing why, I made sure, whenever possible, that nothing passed between the compartmentalization I had created between the day child and the night child.” (2003, p. 26)

~ Marilyn Van Derbur

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