Relationships 101 Quotes

Some people need significance more than they need another person. Change will only happen in a relationship when you realize it is not the person, but the emotion you desire.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Unrequited love is the only emotion that allows sane people to taste the “life sentence” of someone with bipolar disorder. The longer they hang onto a lost cause the more unstable they look to everyone else. They contradict their own belief systems and statements, by circling the drain with two competing emotions—love and hate.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you love yourself you will never need closure from any man. That doesn't mean you didn't love him, it simply means you love yourself enough to realize God has a better plan for you that doesn't involve one more conversation that will remind you of that person's lack of respect for you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A person that doesn't know their worth will never know yours. Therefore, the longer you hang onto hope that they will finally see your worth is the moment you start to depreciate in value.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The only love you have to prove in life is your love of God and helping others. Anyone that can't see that has proven themselves to be unworthy of your time because why would you spend your life with someone that can't tell the difference between a diamond and dirt?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: Confident women know the difference between being a meal ticket and being the meal.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Never allow yourself to become a choice in any relationship. The moment you do is when you have reduced your loved one's affections to a daily biological question: Should I take a dump here or wait till I get home?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Madness is loving the unsolvable puzzle of your soul and replacing the lost pieces with my own.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Humility is the only thing that can restore a relationship, when respect has been lost.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Don’t ever feel bad that someone couldn’t give you all of their heart. Be grateful that you can take the least complicated part of their soul with you, wherever you go. This is more than some people will ever have.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Some women don't care what you can do for them. They care about what you could make of them in the inside.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Timing is only lack of enough emotions.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Inside of you is your love, not beside you. She is just there to remind you of where you placed her heart.

~ Shannon L. Alder

For, what is the purpose of true love, other than to rescue another from one's self? Why is that not the first thing we look for?

~ Shannon L. Alder

The purpose of any healthy relationship is to find someone that will magnify your life's experiences, not tolerate it or become a spectator of it.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If you are hurting because they hurt then they are the ONE.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Great sex and awesome food is what conquered the beast, not beauty. The key to happiness is to fuck like a porn star and cook like a five star chef.

~ Travis Luedke

Control doesn't validate love, it validates the nonexistence of trust and the painful unwillingness to accept the truth.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You can spend the rest of your life fighting to be respected, accepted and understood by the people you have created a life with or you can start living a life where that isn't a daily goal and ambition in your relationship.

~ Shannon L. Alder

There are many fish in the sea, but never let a good one swim away.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

If you stand in the way of two people who were meant to be together, destiny's train will run you over.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

The bitterest fruit tastes sweet when you share it with someone you love.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

You will know you are in love when it doesn't matter if you sit in heaven or hell with that special someone just as long as they can make you laugh, while you put out the fires.

~ Shannon L. Alder

At first the brain weighs a potential partner, and if the partner fits our ancestral wish list, we get a spike in the release of sex chemicals that makes us dizzy with a rush of unavoidable infatuation. It's the first step down the primeval path of pair-bonding.

~ Abhijit Naskar

Religious guilt will never grow the kind of love you want in someone.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Love is the only tyrant whose reign is sweet.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

Quiet love is better than loud hate.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

Choosing a mate is not a matter of can they do the job, rather will they. A partner of potential doesn't make for a happy marriage. Their actions have to be in line with your needs.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Any woman has the power to be truly happy, with or without a man.

~ Linda Alfiori

If you have to be told how you should feel then those feelings are not strong enough to make you feel alive; they become rules that don’t fit your life script. Not every person will place the same importance as you do on one of the six human needs: certainty, variety, significance, connection/love, growth or contributions. When you know what is most important for yourself and learn to recognize what need is the most important to others, then you can begin to unlock the real reason behind conflict.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If God had a wife He would be in just as much trouble as any man.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

People meant to be together will always take detours through pain, misunderstanding and pride, but some how they always drift back to the one thing that makes them feel alive.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Either, you are in love with someone or you're not. Fear is complicated, not love.

~ Shannon L. Alder