Shannon L. Alder Quotes

The most spiritual people I’ve ever met were not “givers” they were communicators. You don’t give people crumbs. You give them the whole piece of bread when that is what they are asking for, in order to be healed. Christ was never about hiding behind a Facebook page, an email, a prayer circle, a bible, or a church. He was about talking, listening and healing-- face to face. He walked among sinners and ate with them. He devoted his time to people that were brokenhearted, difficult to like and fake as the religious beliefs they clung to. So, why is it that so many people profess to believe in Christ, yet they have forgotten what real love is----communicating?

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you are standing in the middle of a storm you have two choices: Pray to God that it goes away. Or, start praying to God that he gives you the wisdom to figure out why you're standing in the middle of a storm.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Lack of communication has a way of clipping our wings, which keeps us from flying. When things are left unspoken, we forget that everyone is destined to share the sky together.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Communication is the one class no one graduates from. Even the wisest man's words will be misinterpreted by a fool.

~ Shannon L. Alder

See it for what it is and own it, rather than rethink it so you don't have to deal with the trauma of the abuse. This is the only way to move on--through acceptance.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The purest love always reveals itself during acceptance.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Control doesn't validate love, it validates the nonexistence of trust and the painful unwillingness to accept the truth.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Reasoning with senselessness will never build faith. Faith is strengthened when you stop collecting fragmented signs and questionable hunches, in order to build an acceptable reason for your wrong decisions and less than desirable circumstances.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The best part about being a writer is getting the last word.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Writing is the only way to run away from home, without ever leaving.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Fear and focus are the only two things standing between you and staying positive.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A true love story has always been about the journey, not the ending.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It is not the self respect and pride that you take with you, but the heritage you leave behind to your children that matters. A strongly marked personality can influence descendants for generations. Those blessed with a patriotic genetic legacy should run to the top of the mountain and roar with all fervency, “If they can over come, so will I!” When you know the ghosts that stand in support of you, you can begin to see life as they did—a life of joy, possibilities and freedom.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You can spend the rest of your life fighting to be respected, accepted and understood by the people you have created a life with or you can start living a life where that isn't a daily goal and ambition in your relationship.

~ Shannon L. Alder

I am not a human being. I am a human BEING. Just be.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Tolerance is nothing more than patience with boundaries.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Your religion is not what you do on Sunday. It is how you live Monday through Saturday.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Immorality is the word we use to describe people that are not sinning the same way we are.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: A confident woman takes him for exactly who he is, not who she wants him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it before you get married. This is the ground level of your partner. Together you can grow from here. However, if you are still teaching basic kindergarten values such as kindness, compassion, respect or honesty then you shouldn't complain if your ground level has a basement.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The most common lie you will ever tell God is your opportunity to do the right thing was taken from you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes you can't agree with people because you would both be wrong.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The question isn't who will be with me in life, rather how will I create the ending I am proud of?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Learn to be a responder, not a reactor.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You don't have to be strong to survive a bad situation, you simply need a plan.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Your expectations of other people should never be greater than what you expect of God. Why is it that you can patiently wait for him to make your life better, but you won't consider he is patiently waiting for you to be better?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Winning or losing achieves the same result--change.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: If they made you an option you will always be an option vs. the person they really wanted. Don't ever settle for someone that makes you go through hell only to stay with you because they don't have the confidence to go get what they really want. Fear will always follow your rules when they know they don't have options that make them stay comfortable. You won't grow real love in this type of a relationship. You will water weeds and call it a garden.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If someone wants to be in your life they will find you. If they don't they will find an excuse.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The more you rationalize, the more you move farther away from your authentic self.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The need for control always comes from someone that has lost it.

~ Shannon L. Alder

What I find predictable is crazy people's ability to predict that unpredictable people can be predicted by their consistent unpredictable behavior, thus making all crazy people predictable when the world says they are unpredictable. Therefore, I must be “right” because I can predict crazy because I have been trained in the unpredictable nature of consistent craziness because I am crazy.

~ Shannon L. Alder

People seldom change. Only their masks do. It is only our perception of them and the perception they have of themselves that actually change.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It is not what they say, but the reaction that tells you everything you need to know.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The only person worth risking everything for is the one person that would never let you risk everything for.

~ Shannon L. Alder

True love is not a question. It is an answer that you never have to spend a lifetime figuring out.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Some of the best mysteries end in a love story.

~ Shannon L. Alder

True love is the tide that pulls out to sea, but always returns to kiss the shore at sunrise.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: If he’s with you, it’s a given that he finds you attractive. Don’t talk him out of his attraction by highlighting all your flaws and spending your time cutting down other women's qualities that you are jealous of. A real women focuses on what she has and fixes what she doesn't like. She doesn't blame people for not seeing what she doesn't always see in herself.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The best don’t stick around when you treat them poorly, only the desperate do.

~ Shannon L. Alder

God will always deliver the truth when you have enough faith to believe in miracles.

~ Shannon L. Alder