Shannon L. Alder Quotes

You can't compare men or women with mental disorders to the normal expectations of men and women in without mental orders. Your dealing with symptoms and until you understand that you will always try to find sane explanations among insane behaviors. You will always have unreachable standards and disappointments. If you want to survive in a marriage to someone that has a disorder you have to judge their actions from a place of realistic expectations in regards to that person's upbringing and diagnosis.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It really is quite simple. All women really want is to be needed, valued and loved above anyone else and they will make you a keeper. It's your actions she is paying attention to, not your words.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Maybe, the question isn't who will look good by your side, who will make these days less dull, who will bring you the greatest financial benefit, who will be the one to bring you pleasure, who do you have the most in common with?.... Maybe, the question one should ask is who do you want at your side when you are dying?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowering Women 101: If a normal man wants you he will let you know. You won't have to guess. He will move mountains to bring you into his life. If he is abnormal he will string you along, drop a trail of crumbs and clues for you to follow, in order to keep you guessing. This type of man desires you, but doesn't value you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes, you can be more than enough for someone, but they choose not to be in your life. Always remember that Satan works hard to keep people miserable by feeding their fears, so they stay in their comfort zone. The truth is some people value what is predictable, more than chemistry.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The right man in your life will fly across the world to say hello, instead of saying goodbye.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The problem isn’t that I think so highly of myself. It is just that you think so little of yourself. Live life BIG, BOLD and OUT LOUD!

~ Shannon L. Alder

Chasing a person doesn’t give you value or build values in you. You earn your value by chasing morality and practicing dignity.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The secret to your purpose is to find what you feel is important, and not pursue what others would think is important. When you think highly of yourself, me thinking highly of you will never be enough!

~ Shannon L. Alder

Introspective souls are often tormented by their passionate visions. This is because visionaries see what shall be and wake up to what is. However, if you couldn't see a glimpse of the city lights while stranded in the forest, how would you ever know to walk in that direction? Sometimes, your vision can't be put into action, until you gather the learning experiences, along your journey first.

~ Shannon L. Alder

They say faith is taking the first step when you can’t see the whole staircase. Actually, wisdom is seeing the elevator behind it that would have taken you to the top floor.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Maybe, the lesson we can all learn from the inner sadness of a Narcissist is to see through our own fabrications, our own illusions so that we can be set free to be real once more.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Time doesn't heal all wounds, only distance can lessen the sting of them.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Often the inspiration to write music comes from the voices in your head. You’re not crazy. Just be thankful they are not making you rescue people in 20-degree weather at 2:30 in the morning in the forest.

~ Shannon L. Alder

There is no real bravery in getting paid to save someone's life. However, there is a large amount of bravery in a nurse break dancing at the hospital's Christmas party.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A very unwise man once said, “He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.” A very annoyed woman once said, “He who does not want to communicate will never enjoy their silence for very long.

~ Shannon L. Alder

God's justice will always be found at the end of a pen.

~ Shannon L. Alder

I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. They reach the summit last because they know God isn’t at the top waiting for them. He is down below helping his followers to understand that the view is glorious where ever you stand.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Spirituality has a language of it's own and some people haven't learned to speak it.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A coward talks to everyone but YOU.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Arrogance is someone claiming to have come to Christ, but they won't spend more than five minutes listening to your journey because they are more concerned about their own well being, rather than being a true disciple of Christ. Blessed is the person that takes the time to heal and hear another person so they can move on.

~ Shannon L. Alder

True saddness is when someone still thinks your the same person after all these years. They brand you because of their own ego, fear and lack of spirituality. What's sadder is when they are Christian.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When someone is stalking you because they think you are stalking them, it makes you wonder who really is the true stalker?

~ Shannon L. Alder

He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Living a life somewhere else in your mind is nothing more than being a prisoner where you are.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The secret to life is to have no fear. When you can let go of what others think about you, how something is going to turn out, or how your past will affect your future, then you are finally living life free.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Of all the questions I have asked my readers this is the most important: What would you do if you weren't afraid? When you finally give wings to that answer then you have found your life's purpose.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Denial is the way people handle what they cannot handle.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Some people develop a wishbone where their backbone should be.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Love may be blind but jealousy has 20-20 vision.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If you hold onto a man hoping someone else won't get them you have learned how to be desperate, not wise.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The solution is so obvious, but for so many of us we would travel a hundred miles out of the way to avoid it, gather a thousand opinions on the way and take a pit stop in fear to check our map before we proceed through hell. Heaven was always a direct flight with no layovers.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Judgement of others and ourselves always comes from a place of fear. It is fear that keeps us from living authentically all that we say we value.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Time is too swift for those who fear, too long for those who wait, too short for those who finally find peace, but for those who love, time is eternal. For nothing is ever lost that God wants you to find.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Real women fight for something, other than their own emotions.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Never pray to be a better slave when God is trying to get you out of your situation.

~ Shannon L. Alder

I could crawl inside the lyrics and know each note intimately. They would claw at my soul, until I could no longer fight the emotions that took me to a place I couldn't experience. But, it was the possibility that made every verse a heart filled prediction and every beat a direction to follow.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Passion is not a reaction to an external event. It is the left over emotions from the internal battles you have won that propels you forward.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If you truly feel that self esteem and motivation have to happen first before you can make changes in your life, then we’ll probably be sharing walkers at a retirement home as we talk over what might have been.

~ Shannon L. Alder