Shannon L. Alder Quotes

That is who I was yesterday. Today I walk with God.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Be honest with who you are, what you want and how you want to be treated. Boundaries only scare off the people that were not meant to be in your life.

~ Shannon L. Alder

An insecure woman chases love, a confident woman invites a man to find her.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Some will wear masks their entire life because they care about what other people think, while others remove the mask to be who they truly are. The difference between the two is not the ability to trust others, but to trust in God.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Don't beg for approval or expect respect. Respect comes from within and your choice to allow people to take it from you, by how you teach them to treat you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: A confident woman knows that forgiving is important, but sticking around for constant abuse isn't being confident; it is called being a doormat.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If you have to convince someone that you are their soulmate then you didn't realize the thousand other guys applying for the job.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: Confident women know the difference between being a meal ticket and being the meal.

~ Shannon L. Alder

True self confidence happens when you stop blaming others for not seeing what you love about yourself. Not everyone has the same list of needs.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Never speak unless you can improve upon the stupidness of people's silence.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Some women are built by the fire. Yet, there are some that are the FIRE!

~ Shannon L. Alder

The victory is not to change the mind of the critic; it is to evaluate what you can learn and discard, yet still walk away with peace in your heart.

~ Shannon L. Alder

How you react doesn’t tell a person about your character, as much as it does your fear or God's fire. Which is it?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Pressure has the power to create a diamond, but it has to be the right pressure.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The only way you will ever be free is when you decide you have had enough of living up to the standards other people force upon you through shame. Never wear their chains of judgment when they can’t break free of their own.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Never be ashamed of who you are. True shame always belongs to the person that enjoys being ashamed of who you are.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Heroes are not made. They are born out of circumstances and rise to the occasion when their spirit can no longer coexist with the hypocrisy of injustice to others.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Never allow yourself to become a choice in any relationship. The moment you do is when you have reduced your loved one's affections to a daily biological question: Should I take a dump here or wait till I get home?

~ Shannon L. Alder

I don’t even pretend to believe I know everything; I just believe in arguments God told me I had a pretty good chance of winning, while I was traveling through hell.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A boy has other people do the talking for him, a man speaks his mind.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You know you have found your life mission when you say, “I dare you to try and take this away from me.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Being popular doesn’t always win spiritual change. Christ didn’t pour out the coins of the moneychangers and overturn their tables with any degree of manners when he cleansed the temple. His harshness drew a point—to make people realize how much better they could become.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you have the courage to follow your talents into the dark unknown places they lead, often God will send angels to light your way.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The problem with this generation is they are so quick to define who they are in the process of searching. It is their need for immediate acceptance that keeps them from exploring further.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A relationship run by rules, instead of love is a relationship that is on the road to failure.

~ Shannon L. Alder

I don’t understand hospital chaplains that try to rob my patients of their anger. Sometimes anger is a key motivator that gets people to take action. Anger can push a cancer patient to jump out of his hospital bed, walk down to the nurses station and scream, “I am getting the hell out of here!”. There is a misconception that God is simply sweet and passive. Actually, God can be quite cunning, manipulative and relentless with his children. What we consider as negative traits are actually helpful in molding us. He will use a negative emotion if needed to push people to do things that will change them for the better. He will allow people or situations to derail us if there is a chance that those interactions will push us forward. Personally, I don’t want a God that is going to send some church member to my deathbed with a plate of cookies and tell me to have faith. Actually, I rather have a God that screams, “Get the hell off your ass, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Walk down the hall with that Physical Therapist so you can get on with your life! A little anger in a person can push them to do amazing things.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Madness is loving the unsolvable puzzle of your soul and replacing the lost pieces with my own.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The biggest lie women tell themselves about men: When I get what I want, I will be happy.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You will know it is love when the need can't be met by yourself or God.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Nobody knows what God's plan is for your life, but a whole lot of people will guess for you if you let them.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you’re given the gift of truth, you spend a lot of time trying to tone it down because it is already offensive enough.

~ Shannon L. Alder

I have found so many angels trapped inside undisputed jargon that I find myself digging at the words, in order to release them, from the books that unfairly captured their soul.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If you truly loved someone you won't become their enemy. You will become their guardian angel.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It doesn't matter who said it, as long as it changed you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Love is proved the moment you let go of someone because they need you to.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you love yourself you won't need to ask God if someone is being honest with you. You will know already because you wouldn't have asked him if you had the self confidence to know how people should treat you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Set the standards for what you expect of people and the correct ones will join your cause.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: Happiness is something that you establish before a relationship. It is not the relationship that establishes it first.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If I could be anything in this world I would be rare. So rare that the people I loved never forgot me or ever found anything to compare me to. I was never a type, but the only type--the person you couldn't throw away because you would never be able to describe the mystery of something that didn't fit this world.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Never settle on a life you don't want when God is trying to give you a better life.

~ Shannon L. Alder