Shannon L. Alder Quotes

Empowered Women 101: Everyone wants to be a princess, but you weren't the first princess in his life. They scrubbed his floors, washed his workout clothes, picked up his dirty socks and dealt with his issues. Always remember that history leaves a pattern of what to expect. A real woman knows that the bible is a motivator, but the real instruction manual is observing the last woman's struggle.

~ Shannon L. Alder

This world is not here for you, you are here for it.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes the simplest solution out of conflict is becoming someone’s friend, instead of saying goodbye forever.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The more you talk about it, rehash it, rethink it, cross analyze it, debate it, respond to it, get paranoid about it, compete with it, complain about it, immortalize it, cry over it, kick it, defame it, stalk it, gossip about it, pray over it, put it down or dissect its motives it continues to rot in your brain. It is dead. It is over. It is gone. It is done. It is time to bury it because it is smelling up your life and no one wants to be near your rotted corpse of memories and decaying attitude. Be the funeral director of your life and bury that thing!

~ Shannon L. Alder

God is the only one that won't disappoint you. Everyone else is percentages of your peace.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The most compassionate and peaceful thing you can do for yourself and others is to let go of the past, let go of the anger, let go of trying to hurt people that wronged you. There are thousands of people dying from cancer that wish they had someone to care about them and be with them during their final days. There are children being sold into sex trafficking and are hoping someone would rescue them. There are homeless people that wish they had something warm to wear or eat. There is an entire species being wiped out because not enough people care about our oceans. Today, remember that there is someone praying for the very things you take for granted. Spend your effort where God needs you to be--on the front lines of the war on earth, not on the battlefields of the past.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Have you ever stopped to think that maybe God isn't trying to save you? Maybe, he is trying to remove all that hurt and anger inside of you so you can save everyone in this situation? Maybe, today you could be that peaceful warrior. Maybe, for once in your life you could not react, but respond. God is waiting for you to be his hero and heal people. When will you love, not hate? When will you show the best part of who you are? You have the power to be someone great. You can show kindness, compassion, mercy and love if you want to. You have been running your entire life thinking peace is found in what you hurt or cut away from your life. Have you ever considered peace is found in what you love, restore, bring kindness to and forgive? Maybe, today is your day to be someone different--someone the world can say was different because they cared about everyone's feelings.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Somethings worth having defy logic. They come with obstacles, challenges, battles and long periods of wandering in the dark. Your path won't make sense to your family or friends. People will weigh in with their life rules and fears, but in the end it is your life. That pull you feel is real and often your intuition. It nags at you everyday. Follow it for as far as it takes you because life is too short to dwell on indecision, while you forget to live. Take a chance because if you have a good heart God isn't going to abandon you. He will travel wherever you need to go, in order to find the missing pieces of your soul.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The best part of the gospel is you get to take it with you wherever your heart lands.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you know what you want you will be excited about it and give every ounce of effort to making it come true. No excuse or fear will get in your way because peace is found in focus.

~ Shannon L. Alder

There are many types of marriage relationships and all of them can work, but none is sadder than the one that doesn't represent peace in your heart.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You will know it is love not when you think about them all the time or want to be with them, but when you worry about them and you want their approval and happiness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Praying for the people that hurt you may not change them, but it will change you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Peace is not about who you can live with, but who you can't live without.

~ Shannon L. Alder

To find the peace you never had you will need to do the one fearful thing that you have never done.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, What else could this mean?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes you can be touched by God, but not healed. Often when this happens, he is using your pain for a greater purpose.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Stupidity is to have amnesia over your own faults when the person you hate makes theirs.

~ Shannon L. Alder

God whispered, You endured a lot. For that I am truly sorry, but grateful. I needed you to struggle to help so many. Through that process you would grow into who you have now become. Didn't you know that I gave all my struggles to my favorite children? One only needs to look at the struggles given to your older brother Jesus to know how important you have been to me.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When people hurt it is because they feel they are going to lose something. The questions to ask is: What?

~ Shannon L. Alder

Whether you deny your wounds or see them clearly, they bring a great source of power because they lived in the same place as your heart.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You will never understand the real definition of insanity until the day you are told it is unreasonable for you to feel hurt by the very people that hurt you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Truth is never a straight line; it is a circle that will take you back to what you know, in order to challenge your belief in what is fair, what is real, what is forgiveable, what is not and what type of person will you become today now that you know.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The only way through pain is love.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The hardest part of letting go is the uncertainty--when you are afraid that the moment you let go of someone you will hate yourself when you find out how close you were to winning their affection. Every time you give yourself hope you steal away a part of your time, happiness and future. However, once in a while you wake up to this realization and you have to hold on tightly to this truth because your heart will tear away the foundation of your logic, by making excuses for why this person doesn't try as much as you. The truth is this: Real love is simple. We are the ones that make it complicated. A part of disconnecting is recognizing the difference between being desired and being valued. When someone loves you they will never keep you waiting, give their attention and affection away to others, allow you to continue hurting, or ignore what you have gone through for them. On the other hand, a person that desires you can't see your pain, only what they can get from you with minimal effort in return. They let you risk everything, while they guard their heart and reap the benefits of your feelings. We make so many excuses for the people we fall in love with and they make up even more to remain one foot in the door. However, the truth is God didn't create you to be treated as an option or to be disrespected repeatedly. He wants you to close the door. If someone loves you and wants to be in your life no obstacle will keep them from you. Remember, you are royalty, not a beggar.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you think this pain is all you deserve, you are right. You are the only one that can decide how long you will walk in hell.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Sensitive people feel so deeply they often have to retreat from the world, in order to dig beneath the layers of pain to find their faith and courage.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It takes courage to let go of the past and all the mechanisms you have put in place, in order to ease your pain, regret and fear through avoiding responsibility for it.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Maybe, it is not the thorn on the rose that we should see, but the beauty of the gesture.

~ Shannon L. Alder

God cannot remove the burdens of your heart, but he will prompt you where to go, what to say and what to do, in order to free yourself from your chains.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The number of chances you give someone doesn't tell the world how loving you are without telling them how desperate you are to believe they care as much as you. True love resides in the first chance, stupidity in the second, opportunists in the third and scoundrels in the fourth.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world, it is the woman that holds the keys to the kingdom.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When I was a child, an angel came to say,A true friend is coming my warrior to sweep you away,It won’t be easy the path because it leads through hell,But if you’re faithful, it will be the greatest story to tell,You will move God’s daughters to a place of hope,Your story will teach everyone there is nothing they can’t cope,You will suffer a lot, but not one tear will you waste,Because for all that you do for me, you will be graced,For I am bringing you someone that wants to travel your trail,Someone you already met when you passed through heaven’s veil,A warrior, a friend that whispers your heart’s song,Someone that will run with you and pull your spirit along,Don’t you see the timing was love's fated throw,Because I put you both there to help one another grow,I am the writer of all great stories your chapters were written by me,You suffered, you cried because I needed you to see,That your faith in my ending goes far beyond two,It was going to change more hearts than both of you knew,So hush my child and wait for my loving hand,The last chapter is not written and still in the sand,It is up to you to finish, before the tide washes it away,All that is in your heart, I’ve put there for you to say,This is not about winning, loss or pain,I made you the way you are because true love stories are insane,I wrote you in heaven as I sat on its sandy shore,You know with all of my heart I loved you both more,There is no better ending two people seeing each other's heart,Together your spirits will never drift apart,Because two kindred spirits is what I made you to be,The waves and beach crashing together because of-- ME.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes the one thing you need for growth is the one thing you are afraid to do.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You have to recognize your inability to love before you can love the way God loves. His version of love is unfamiliar to the natural world, It is sacrificial and selfless and the most beautiful love you could experience.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Temptation goes both ways. Sometimes, you can be tempted to live a half life because it pleases someone else. Don't ever live in such a way that your heart splits into two souls. You might find yourself sinning for the rest of your life because you don't want to really be in that situation, but you don't want to hurt the kids. That is a hell that your children will pick up on soon enough. Staying for the kids is possible, but it takes two people to agree that choice is their lifestyle, not one. Otherwise, you hold another person captive because of your fear of stating the obvious-- you are not in love with them.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Insanity is starting over a million times, expecting to feel the spark you never did the first time.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Staying for your children is noble. However, staying with someone that teaches your children that selective evilness is okay is mental illness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If you have to make a daily choice to be in a relationship then you are married to the past, not the person.

~ Shannon L. Alder

No one would have guessed that the jagged pieces of our soul fit the puzzle in this box. We were considered the left over remnants that had no place, except the picture we wanted to create together.

~ Shannon L. Alder