Relationships 101 Quotes

When you blame others, what you are really saying is what is inside of you can’t be fixed, so you have no control of your own happiness. Therefore, you have made the conscience choice to give focus and fuel to a bad situation that will take you nowhere and give you nothing, but ignorance and pain.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Your true power is not in your difference, but in your consistency of being different. The world will always adjust to consistency, yet struggle with change.

~ Shannon L. Alder

If your children know who God is they will know who they are, regardless of where you or they call home.

~ Shannon L. Alder

When you can't escape your mind then God is telling your heart to catch up. Fight for the balance you need.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Settling is not a destination, rather a vacation rental staring at an endless sea that dares you to cross its waves.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The people that truly love us in life don't fight for us to remain a doormat for others.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Expectations are nothing more than the rules we set, in order to maintain our ego and self esteem. What we seek from others is often that fulfillment of what we believe we require for happiness. However, many of us will raise the requirements so high that we can't even reach them or better yet, realize that we could find that expectation met by our own introspection and action.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Life is a constant battle of fighting your own fears and not absorbing others. Don’t fill the empty spaces of your heart with the fears of others in your life. It is the highly anxious person that will tell you that certain people and experiences need to be labeled and kept either close or at a distance. They go to great lengths to categorize things, in order to feel balance in their life because they are out of balance. Life to them is about control and making you believe that their perfect world is normal when there is nothing normal about it. Highly anxious people live through manipulating their world into what is easy and palatable to them and they can easily pull you into an unrealistic view of the world around them. You constantly have to reassess what is reasonable and what is over exaggerated because fear drives their every action.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Relationships are the flavors of life.

~ Pawan Mishra

A relationship is not just about sex – it is much more than that. Sex is only a tool in love, not love itself.

~ Abhijit Naskar

Good sex is about knowing each other's deepest and kinkiest desires.

~ Abhijit Naskar

There is no such thing as “vaginal orgasm” vs. “clitoral orgasm”. The entire ring of tissues that surrounds the vaginal opening is connected to the clitoris by nerves and blood vessels. Ultimately all these tissues together are responsible for the female orgasm. This entire erogenous zone is often referred to as the “ring of fire”.

~ Abhijit Naskar

If you truly loved someone and they couldn't be in your life you won't hurt them. You will pray for them. You will hope that they find their happiness and place in this world. You will want them to have the best life because love isn't about possession, fear or desperation. When you have a grasp on eternity you don't need to feel time is running out. Time is all you have. Love isn’t a game of musical chairs--grab a partner and sit down. It is a search for the right fit for your soul and life purpose. In a life that never ends you will either find the one that sees you as much as you see them, 0r who knows? Maybe, if there are such things as soulmates, God will introduce you, but keep you far enough apart, until each of you fulfill something more important for your growth or God’s plan. Regardless, when you can face eternity alone you will know what true love is and that letting go is not an insult to your soul. You can smile because the person you loved has your blessings of protection with them and God has your best interest also in mind. You will find that person to complete you because God wants you to, as much as you do.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Love that causes you pain is better than hate that brings you pleasure.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

Don't burn your bridges until you build better ones.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

Walking towards love is wiser than falling into it.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

Having dignity doesn't require you to fall out of love with someone. You can love someone your entire life and not been in their life. It simply means you won't allow their actions or inactions to guide your future. The moment you feel derailed from your life purpose, in limbo or have to sell your worth, you have crossed over from love to desperation.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Blame doesn't empower you. It keeps you stuck in a place you don't want to be because you don't want to make the temporary, but painful decision, to be responsible for the outcome of your own life's happiness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Don't talk yourself into falling in love with someone. Either, you are in love or you are not. True love is not a choice. It is something you know in your heart when all guilt, doubt and fear are removed.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Love is so many things, but it is not safe.

~ Shannon L. Alder

I waited for the seasons of love to pass from this cold winter to the summer heat I dreamed of.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You will finally have dignity when you realize that you are not on the path, but have become the path for others.

~ Shannon L. Alder

First law of pleasurable love-making in the long run, is that you don't keep naked pictures of your partner on your phone.

~ Abhijit Naskar

All women desire one simple quality in their partner, which is understanding.

~ Abhijit Naskar

Our primitive ancestors learnt various behavioral characteristics like jealousy, possessiveness and aggression to ensure the survival of their wild love life in the harsh environment of Mother Nature. And all those behavioral responses eventually got engraved in our genetic blueprint. So, these are not the enemies in the path of a healthy relationship, rather when utilized properly they can even kindle the spark in a dying relationship.

~ Abhijit Naskar

If kindness wins, accountability rules.

~ Galit Breen

Bitter love is better than sweet hate.

~ Matshona Dhliwayo

People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this network of life and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Many people think less of a man if he cries because it supposedly shows a sign of weakness, but I beg to differ. A man that’s in touch with his feelings is absolutely beautiful! I admire, respect, and appreciate their braveness to be vulnerable. Crying is NOT a weakness. We cannot expect our men to be strong all of the time. That’s SO unfair! They have feelings, too. Don’t ever make a man feel less than just because he cries. Comfort, love, and support him. Show him that you genuinely care.

~ Stephanie Lahart

Love is like breathing. You can't live without it.

~ Imania Margria

The only man worth having in your life is one that would never let you walk away.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The reason a lot of women can't move on from a relationship or people they love is because they need to know why. Why did this happen? Why did you do this? Why don't you care? Why did you hurt me? Why do you believe this about me? Why did you send me mixed signals? Why are these other people in your life acting like you care? Men have it all wrong. Insecurity is not why a lot of women don't let go. Women have a difficult time letting go because men don't communicate why at the level that women require. They don't back up their words with actions that are not confusing or could be misinterrupted as something else. Until, men learn that their actions and their friends and families reactions can create a questionable doubt about how they feel, they will forever have to deal with the drama they create for themselves.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The words, I love you, are empty without clarification. Women prefer to be told what they can expect. It is measurable like a Weight Watcher’s diet, with extra points at the end of the week if you don’t cheat.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A man worth loving is a man that never makes you feel like an option.

~ Shannon L. Alder

Fearlessness is not what you do to win, but what you don't do. When you love yourself as much as your God, you won't see other people as the source of your pain. Rather, you will see who you have become because you honestly believed that your chains would be broken through hatred, instead of kindness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

The destination is not the journey. The destination is the person you choose to enjoy the journey with.

~ Shannon L. Alder

You can't be tempted, unless you want what is tempting you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It is better to be alone than to become a person that loses his soul to the fear of loneliness.

~ Shannon L. Alder

It is better to be alone then to be in a relationship, while you are trying to figure out what love means to you.

~ Shannon L. Alder

A daughter of God knows that insecurity is not an excuse for doing evil to others, nor will God rest until caring for everyone is a lesson you learn.

~ Shannon L. Alder